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25 Aug 2008, 8:59 am

At my school, all the liars, bullies, superficial people and gossipers are very popular. They lie, gossip about someone's hairstyle and bullie whoever they don't like at the moment. They all pretend to be the most popular and fashionable, and live an extremely superficial life. They all want to look the same with their fashion, and still think they're special. The (in my eyes) strange thing is that they are always the most popular people, while I very much dislike them.

I don't get why, troughout my life, the nicest and most kind people always were the loneliest. I just don't understand. Why do people hate or dislike friendly folks, and hang out with bullies, people I find mean and nasty? Because I definitely resent them, and I don't want to have anything to do with them. (That's quite hard, when you're in a class of people you very much dislike)

Do you notice too that the nicest people are mostly the loneliest and the meanest the most popular?

I know I do and I find it rather sad.


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25 Aug 2008, 9:19 am

Superficial people are popular, they pander to the masses. Who would you rather be friends with ... the bully or the bullied.
nice people are bullied, and people stick with the bullies because it is safer. So nice people should stick together....like we are on this site :)



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25 Aug 2008, 9:23 am

young people want to have fun, making fun of others is an easy fun to get. if you are a good-hearted person, you won't be willing to participate in making fun of others, so you have to be left out.


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25 Aug 2008, 10:07 am

The bullies are in the limelight, under pressure. People see them differently, so at the end of the day, it is them who will be jealous of the not-so-popular so they can have a quiet life



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25 Aug 2008, 10:54 pm

Crocodile wrote:
At my school, all the liars, bullies, superficial people and gossipers are very popular. They lie, gossip about someone's hairstyle and bullie whoever they don't like at the moment. They all pretend to be the most popular and fashionable, and live an extremely superficial life. They all want to look the same with their fashion, and still think they're special. The (in my eyes) strange thing is that they are always the most popular people, while I very much dislike them.

I don't get why, troughout my life, the nicest and most kind people always were the loneliest. I just don't understand. Why do people hate or dislike friendly folks, and hang out with bullies, people I find mean and nasty? Because I definitely resent them, and I don't want to have anything to do with them. (That's quite hard, when you're in a class of people you very much dislike)

Do you notice too that the nicest people are mostly the loneliest and the meanest the most popular?

I know I do and I find it rather sad.


You're still in school as far I can deduce which is place where this sort of social standing is very common. At that stage of life, the life of "jerk" is highly popular. Confidence, jokes (yes sometimes at the expence of others), fansion are all in and this will modify as you transition to adulthood. You'll find a combination of "jerk" and "nice" are mostly who are popular in part of life. People who sit and not talk much or talk but never joke are boring. Just pure nice is good for helping people in need but when comes to school and later in life the "jerk" will always have the upper hand. However you're right it does "suck" however wait until you leave school and you'll see change. I do recommend Uni, awesome place to get in the new social standing. Anywho, that is my experience anyway. Hope that helps.



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26 Aug 2008, 2:17 am

Thats what I've found in school.

The popular people are never the nice, yet still fun people. Its always those who lie, gossip and blly like you said, with the extent of their interests going on whose dating who, hair, whats fashionable or whatever.



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26 Aug 2008, 1:46 pm

I used to ask myself this same question. What I came to realize is that all the superficial crap is just self-deception, inventing things to talk about so they never have to directly deal with any of the real problems. The lonely ones are those of us who couldn't fool ourselves.



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26 Aug 2008, 9:30 pm

Well, if it makes you feel any better, I know of a bully who people *pretend* to be friends with, but really aren't. Even though I'm not popular or his friend, it kind of gives me a sense of satisfaction to know that the other people are just as bad as he is: using him to make a mockery out of him. If it wasn't for the fact that he was my roomy, and has let his sexual frustration get out of hand one too many times, I would say that he was like me. But he's not, especially not since he took advantage of my naivety.