I think I'm gonna give up...

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It doesn't matter how hard I try, I can't keep friends, I think the time has come to say stuff it and just be happy with my family. I've recently been chatting to a few people online, and I've recently had a misunderstanding or some sort of let down from all of them! I'm no a horrible or obnoxious person. Why do people dislike me so much? Anyone else have this problem?

I have a horrible time keeping friends, even online. People just don't understand. I'll be your friend.

i have given up some time ago and i think i can say i am happier. one just has to stop thinking about it.

I have a hard time keeping in touch with friends. It's not like people stop liking me, it's more like they get bored with me, or we run out of excuses to hang out.

I a have hard time too.. i usually do something weird on accident and freak people out, and once that has happened it's too late. The only thing i know to do is to always be on my guard and pretend to be normal. I also stay quiet at the community college where i go so i can listen to people converse and mimic them. You should think about everything you say. This girl who was my friend gave me that advice, i thought she was dumb when she said that, but she told me to wait 3 seconds before i say anything at all. I thought at the time 3 seconds is way too long!, but i realize now that is the best advice I've ever had. I have to remember that what i say effects how people perceive me.

Send me a pm. I'll talk with you.

It is easy to misunderstand and to be misunderstood. Sometimes you need to take a vacation from trying for while to charge up batteries before going out to try again.

Oh yes. I thought about making a similar thread to this. People stop liking or lose interest in me, and I usually don't know why.

I can really identify with all this.

I am 54yrs old and have just decided that there is a strong possibility I could be somewhere on the spectrum.

Over the years I have had difficulty with relationships of all kinds. I'm not a nasty person and try to do what's right. I have attempted to make friends by going out and joining interest groups . Even though I have made friends the friendships fizzle out because I am sure I come across as boring. I feel incapable of making "small talk". I cannot initiate social conversation or maintain it very well. The few friends I have talk a lot and that does take the pressure off me. At work I have this tendency to chip in with the conversation of others in the tea room and this is the way I "socialise." Imagine how I felt when someone , and she was just being honest and not bitchy, told me that I p*ssed people off when I did that because I never chatted to them as individuals on their own. Since then I have retreated into my little shell and feel quite down.

I am fairly attractive but don't get a guy because I don't notice that anyone is interested but I find out later that they were and I just did not notice the cues / eye contact etc. I have had only 2 relationships and only one developed into something sexual but once agin not a long lasting one.

So what do you think. Do you think I qualify to post on this website or not !

So what do you think. Do you think I qualify to post on this website or not ![/quote]

I would say you do. Welcome aboard our thread of misery.lol, I'm only joking.[/quote]


Thanks. it's good to be with like minded people even if we are all mad. LOL

aww, to the original post, dont let them get you down sunshine..

I have a hard time aswell, and people seem to get ticked with me in real life, as if the way i live my life is anethema to them.. I seem boring because i dont DO a lot.. when the only reason for that is I use my brain to get enjoyment.. i dont need my body to be doing things, my brain does enough work ahah..
but anyways.. dont worry to much *hugs*..

Some friends just seem to fade (Or flat out leave) from life.
I've recently found myself in a similar situation.

I've been in the same situation since high school. The last time I had a good set of friends was middle school. Then they slowly started going away. I talk with about 2 people online regularly who I would say I know quite well for it being online (though one of them has recently been MIA a lot lately). It does seem like it would be easier to just give up, but trust me, it gets lonely and boring. If you (or anyone here) would like to talk on AIM, feel free to message me (screen name should be in my profile).