Ever try using handshakes at ends of conversation as a tool?

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It's something that I picked up from a friend at college a few semesters ago. At first I thought it was the normal 'handshake after first time meeting someone kind of handshake', but I soon realized he used it very frequently with people he knew, including myself. The feeling of closeness and that my conversation was valued made metry to copy his technique. I use that technique off and on, but I like the fact that it firmly ends the conversation so that I don't ramble on. And although I'm not that fond of touch I've learned to endure it if a handshake can give a sense of connection and friendliness beyond the usual withdrawn and distant conversations that are my norm.

Anyone else strategize their handshakes beyond the formal first meeting handshake? Or use some other method to try to connect beyond words?

hmm, I always viewed a hand shake as a standard process when first walking up to someone(reguardless of if you know them or not) and as an end to a conversation. Its just standard in human communication.

But one thing I do know people judge you(if your a man) by whether or not your handshake is firm and direct. The perfect handshake for a man to man is firm tight grip but also not too tight to where you could break someones hand(i used to have issues with this) Finding a happy medium in the handshake dealy will give off good impression.

also not that this needs to be said but just incase, be easy when shakin the ladies hands

There's a lot to be said for giving a firm handshake and looking someone in the eye.

Indeed, I don't remember the percentage but they say most of communication is body language.

Actually, I do it at the beginning of a conversation.