I don't need friend-s-.

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That's what I have come to realize. I crave human contact, and I can get that through members of the opposite sex, but it's not by friendship. That's something more intimate.

All I need in the way of friendship is my younger brother, who I am very close to. We share so many of the same interests, but are unlike enough to keep things interesting.

Anyone else find themselves stopping and realizing they don't need more than a single actual friend?

|-o-| V4der |-o-|

I do not need any relationship.

But those that I have, I want.

I'm very close to my brother also, but when we lived together with our parents, each of us occasionally (or usually) had one other friend and we were both a little bit jealous about each other's "other friends". It wasn't a big problem for me, but would it be hard for you if your brother had other friends besides you? Just something to think about. It wouldn't be fair to him if you want to be his only friend.

People are like leaves on a tree...many are only in your presence for a season and some may stick around a little longer...maybe for a week, a month or a year. Those people that stick around may become 'branches" in your life...and a tree can have many branches. However, be careful. What may look like a strong branch when you need strength and support, may easily fall away when you grab onto it for help.

Then, there are the "roots" of the tree. A tree may have a thousand "branches" but, it can only have a few "roots." It is those
very few "roots" that give the tree its true support and nourishment...always prepared to give the tree strength whenever it is
needed.

Are you a "root," "branch" or simply a "leaf"?

V4der, if you're young (less than 35), I can honestly say I felt the same way at your age. Now that I'm older, I realize having a good friend would be enjoyable and probably good for my mental health. Ironically, as I've aged, the pool of prospective friends has all but dried up. My peers are busy with their families, jobs and old friends and have no need to develop new friendships. At least this has been my experience. To extend zsazsa's metaphor, maybe you need to nurture the tree over many years so that it's healthy and strong when you grow old and can appreciate it most. Something to think about?

Be careful about putting all your eggs in one basket. I won't go into why it's dangerous, but beware.