Events you don't like / can't stand

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Anyone participate in events or settings they know they don't like just to try to meet people? Coming in to 2008, I had a pretty good sized (for me anyways) group of friends and acquaintances, but heading out of 2008, that group is completely gone, for various reasons. The problem is that now, I don't have a way to make friends or meet people. The group I did have were either people I met at school or people I met through people at school. Now that I'm done with school, that option is out. I only work with about 12 other people and I wish there was a way I could have my own side office or something because they irritate the hell out of me so there's no one at work I'd want to make friends with. Currently, I'm either at work or my home. No way to make friends at either of those locations.

My family suggests various activities or classes/clubs but they just don't interest me or I can't convince myself it's worth the money/time. If I'm at a class/club/gathering and I'm not enjoying myself, I won't be up for talking to anyone, let alone small talk so not only am I not meeting people, but I'm completely wasting time/money. Anyone else in a similar situation?

I understand the situation you're in. If you could think of any group activity you enjoy or take interest in, then maybe it would be more worth while because there would be a greater chance of meeting people with similar interests which could make breaking the ice easier by exchanging words about whatever it is you're passionate about, but seeing as you can't think of anything like that, that strikes your fancy, I can see why you wouldn't want to invest your time, money, and energy in something like that. If you ever do participate in one of those activities, it might be worth it to make the first move because chances are, the other people might feel just as apprehensive about the situation, yet just as eager to establish new relationships. It's always worth a shot.

Although I was always very interested in drawing and painting, the idea of taking art classes never appealed to me, but I wanted professional instruction and I wanted to connect with fellow artists. I figured that it would be more productive to put myself out in the world and gain insight from others than to stay cooped up in my room, sketching away in solitude. I felt that way because it would push me out of my comfort zone and force me to adapt to a new situation which would enhance my life experience.

I feel that it is helpful to think in such terms because I don't think one can get what they want to the full extent in life unless they do all in their power to get it. Sometimes the world seems to hand out opprotunities, but often times, one has to seek them out on their own accord.

I get into every extracurricular activity I can at school, just so maybe I can find somebody that wants to talk to me + be my friend.

I have a very, very hard time motivating myself to "get out there and meet people"; for the same reasons, 1)no time 2)no money (or not worth the money for the lack of enjoyment I´ll feel) 3)too many other things I really, really want to do instead 4)too tired after a hard day´s work 5)hate small talk....well, the list could go on and on...

Kind of grim, huh.

I usually don't go to parties unless I have too. If its someone I don't know then I don't bother going.

Nah, the general get-togheter to meet new friends occasion is house parties. I don't like alcohol, or being around drunk people.

I do what I do for my own fun. I go to concerts every now and then, I've made some friends, but I do it to have fun, I never aim to meet people.