I have trouble discussing casual topics with people.

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Hello, I have trouble discussing casual topics with other people at my school. It is becoming very frustrating for me. Around new people it feels like I have a lump in my throat. When I speak I cannot amplify my voice nor speak a lot. I am regarded as quiet and studious amongst peers. I only speak comfortably when my peers ask for help. I have no reason for this. Among my three friends, I am perfectly "normal." Any advice please? Does anyone have insight what other people think and feel, because I can only truly learn social skills through knowledge of how others think of people with Asperger's.

What are considered "casual" topics?

I think it's a sign of the times. EVERYTHING gets politicized. Those who read more get ahead of the curve on that. Like I've been driven to work and couldn't think of anything to say to the person who gave me the ride because I wasn't about to open a controversy about anything and I couldn't think of anything light to say.

i have trouble caring

This may be unrelated, but I've noticed that nowadays coworkers don't even talk about the news or current affairs. Conversations at lunchtime are much emptier than say 10 years ago.

Just ask a lot of questions and seem interested, most people want to do all the talking and if you seem open to what they have to say your work will be cut out for you.

Current events are simply depressing. It's a lot more like we're deciding which bunch is going to eat our livers than which bunch is going to do the best job of running the country.

You'll find that the large part of the Aspie community finds small talk difficult. It just isn't somthing that comes very naturally.

The only advice I can offer is to try and let them do most of the talking. Beyond that I really don't know.