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richardbenson
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27 Nov 2008, 7:37 pm

i dunno. first off all is this online or in real life? ive found that most people online are fake, mentally ill, or only looking to stroke there ego. most regular people do not post on there internet because they have lives. unless of course its a subjective course of pirticular intrest, like boats or something. then they post. i dont see why you would need to apologize to anyone since you dont see them and im shure they know its just the internet


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28 Nov 2008, 3:42 pm

I think telling your friends how you feel will do the trick. Tell them that you wish that they would be completely honest with you and see if that clears things up.
I think the things in the past should also go away. 'Forgive and Forget' right?


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29 Nov 2008, 6:38 pm

I've been there. I also wish people would tell the truth instead of candy coating everything, and that they would forgive and forget. Of course, I'm being a hypocrite, since I have such a hard time forgiving and forgetting... :roll:

If you stay on your best behavior, and treat everybody with respect for a while, eventually they're sure to see the change and look at you differently. Whether or not they can forget the past would depend on the person, I suppose. Try actually talking about the issue with the people you really care about, and apologize if needed. Trust me, I ignored some things for several years hoping that everyone would forget, and those old issues are coming up now, which is really awkward for me.

I also must agree that your avatar is fabulous. 8)



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30 Nov 2008, 3:41 am

pinkbowtiepumps wrote:
A lot has happened to me in the past year, in the worst sense, and it has left plenty of misinformation in communicating with my peers, as well as emotional scars.

If I stay on my best behavior, and treat everybody with respect, will the backlashes from my experience and my poor reputation clear up? Or will it stick? I've recieved lots of conflicting information on this, and I feel like half of it is biased anyways, from friends who don't want to hurt me. I don't like it when people do this and I just wish they could tell the truth!

I'm only worried since I'm not so good at advocating for myself - people tend to believe other's words against mine, even though I'm being completely honest. I just want everybody to get the truth, I don't really care if they like me or not - well, except for those who would have been my friend under different circumstances.

I know I shouldn't destroy my brain over this but I can't seem to focus on anything else. Any thoughts?


Just act like your honest self and don't concern yourself with things like this. The right people will notice and you will mutually benefit, as the people who don't care for drama are the people who judge people by what they do, and not what they say- and this is what matters most in long-term friendships.