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Mapler
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07 Dec 2008, 11:43 pm

It seems like everyday during school someone has to talk to me. Fine, I don't mind answering some things but I hate it when people make me feel uncomfortable. It's like NT's never stop persisting. I just want to bottle myself up and focus on learning while other NT's bug to me during class.

Ok scenario:

Guy in my 6th period: Sup, do you watch porn? Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: No.
Guy: I can set you up with alot of cute girls.
Me: I'm not sure. *I turn red at this*
Guy: Okay, *walks off*

I wish I was more social so I can explain that I'm homosexual and I don't like girls. Also, I'm not comfortable talking about non school-relating things DURING SCHOOL. Gtfo please. :x



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07 Dec 2008, 11:55 pm

The only way that I can see out of your dilemma is to become a hermit. That is, to live someplace so far out in the wilderness that you never even seen another person. Unfortunately, you live in a social culture that you can not reasonably expect to conform to your wishes.

You can not change the world. You can only adapt to it.


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08 Dec 2008, 12:14 am

Fnord wrote:
The only way that I can see out of your dilemma is to become a hermit. That is, to live someplace so far out in the wilderness that you never even seen another person. Unfortunately, you live in a social culture that you can not reasonably expect to conform to your wishes.

You can not change the world. You can only adapt to it.


Yeah but some people are just so unreasonable. They ask such personal things to people they don't know (me).



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08 Dec 2008, 12:22 am

Mapler wrote:
Fnord wrote:
The only way that I can see out of your dilemma is to become a hermit. That is, to live someplace so far out in the wilderness that you never even seen another person. Unfortunately, you live in a social culture that you can not reasonably expect to conform to your wishes.

You can not change the world. You can only adapt to it.

Yeah but some people are just so unreasonable. They ask such personal things to people they don't know (me).

You need to learn to deal with it. I used to challenge such people to set me up with a date, and to bet money that they couldn't. I usually won, but rarely collected, because such people were usually just "blowing smoke."

you can not change other, but you can change yourself.


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08 Dec 2008, 1:33 pm

Part of the problem is that you are dealing with high school kids. I keep reading all these posts about people who are trying to get by in the social world of high school and college. I'm no expert (being socially isolated myself), but I've been around a few years, and I think you'll find that you'll get less of that kind of nonsense as time goes on. Those other people around you may be NT, but they aren't social experts. It's simply tacky and rude for another kid to come up to you and ask if you like porn, and to badger you like that.