Healing a grudge

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I did a lot of bad things to my roomy last year (including, but not limited to: having a meltdown directed at him), and he did a few things that annoyed me (Including, but not limited to: He, my only friend, kinda forgot about me when he found his g/f). I am interested in just saying sorry to him one last time (I want to move on), but I am not sure how to do it peacefull, especially if he doesn't accept the apology. Does anyone have any advice for me?

What you said is a good start, real friends are hard to find.

unfortunately I have no advice but if you figure it out let me know because I have the same problem...letting go of anything is really hard

What ever you do, don't do what I do and don't ask me for advice on this one, hah.

I can't seem to let go of grudges... Well lately I have, as I sort of let go of this pseudo-life of mine, heh.

Be frank, tell it like it is, exactly how you told us. I don't hold grudges and heal them with others quite easily. In fact, you probably don't have to say much of anything unless the other person desires a grudge (as some do - the feeling that someone else has done something you feel is so negative as to sever all contact is a rather powerful and egotistical feeling).

I think you'll find that your friend wants to check in with you as much as you want to check in with them, especially if you had a friendship with them for a long time.

Still lost? Here's a quick guide:

1. CALL HIM!
2. If he sounds happy to hear from you, see A. If he doesn't sound happy to hear from you, see B.

-A. Talk about how things have been, maybe invite him and his g/f to dinner or something. Even if you never see him again, leaving on a good note is healthier and feels better for both of you. Yearly calls are also very friendly and nice, if you choose to care that much. An apology most likely isn't necessary at all.
-B. After talking a little bit, apologize. If his reaction is favorable, see A. If his reaction is unfavorable, wish him a good life and move on with your own, knowing that you did everything you could.

HI

I DID IT! I caught him in the coffee shop in campus, and I told him I was "Sorry for the way I treated you." He apologized, too. THANKS TO ALL WHO HELPED!