Today...girl turned back and stared at me....

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I passed a girl in my university today whom about 2 years ago when we were in highschool we had some very serious problems. I'd rather not go into what these problems were, and they were 2 years ago. Lets just say I called her bad names. Anyways...this was two years ago. Today I passed her and I quickly looked back and she had turned her head and was looking back at me and she did this for a good 15-20 seconds. Im pretty sure she was looking back at me. About 2 months ago I passed her in the corridor. There's a tiny Tim Horton's in the university in front of a lecture hall. I accidentily walked into her friend she was walking with. I said "I am so sorry," and when I walked a bit further aI turned around and both her and her friend were looking at me. As I said we had problems in the past, but that was two years ago. The question is am I just imagining that she's looking at me or no? If not than why would she be looking at me?

Maybe she thought you did it on purpose.

Needs empathy to figure that out, I suppose.
If you were her, how would you feel if what you did to her was done to you?

Maybe she's thinking:
1.Oh no! This is awful! I thought I left behind that evil loser!
a.If you REALLY hurt her then she hasn't forgotten and thinks you will again.
b.If you hurt her but she got over it, she might be hating you.
c.If she hates you and now has more social power she might think "payback time".
d.She maybe just shocked or horrified to ever see you again. "What is HE doing HERE?"

I certainly would NOT expect her to think nice things,
but ... (Sorry to say this) ... ya never know.
(a joke about ... women seem to ignore "nice guys" and fall for "bad boys")

What I just posted is not to judge you but only a guess about that situation.

*sings Tiptoe through the Tulips*

Maybe she's wondering why you turned back and stared at her?

Just a thought...

she could still dislike you, or she could have gotten over it and was surprised to have seen you at university. i don't know how she was looking at you so i can't say which is more likely. maybe you should say hi next time you see her, if she's receptive then she's probably over it, if she's cold then she's not and you should move on.

She might have thought you were attractive?

Or a lot of times when I recognize people I will do a double take.

Next time say hi, or something simple.

Or better yet ask her if she is the girl...say something nice like, wow you look different

I think it could be one, any combination of, or all of these things, and some others. If I were in this situation, I would ignore her, not speak to her, and basically not have anything to do with her. If you really did hurt her, any future interaction will most likely not yield anything positive.

There are girls from high school I had similar negative experiences with and I'm very glad I haven't seen them since I graduated from high school 22 years ago. I never understood NT Females even before we started calling them that, even less so than NT males. I know if I had run into any of those girls I knew in high school while I was at college, that is how I would have handled it, by having nothing to say to any of them.