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I have three friends who live in the same city as myself and they are involved. However, I am learning that relationships take up a lot of time and space. In addition, I have never been in a relationship and feel a little left out. Although I am not mad or anything, I feel like they are returing my calls less and less or writing back so I feel like they are too busy for me. I also have another friend who is having problems with acting like I am not good enough for him or my personality is not good enough for him.

What's wrong with me?

Nothing.

Relationships must be maintained and not simply experienced. This involves sacrificing time and putting forth the effort just to keep the relationship at the same level. And you really must devote practically all your spare time and effort to advnace or enhance that relationship.

Or, as the Red Queen told Alice, "To get anywhere at all, you'll have to run twice as fast."

It's hard to maintain a relationship, even moreso for those of us who don't pick up on the more subtle social cues or who are easily distracted.

I think there is nothing wrong with you, but that your friends are not quite so attached to you as they are to each other. It's not your fault.

It might help if you get involved in a group of people working together on something you are all interested in: a hobby group or some volunteer organization. That way you will have interests and goals in common with the others, and even if some of the group don't communicate with you, or move on to other things, you will still have the other people in the group.

I was thinking about getting into a math club.