NTs commenting when you do things out of the norm

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NTs commenting when you do things out of the norm when you're feeling awkward in social situations... do you get this a lot?

It always really embarasses me.

I was with a girl from work at her house with her boyfriend and some other guy. I really did not know what to say or how to act around them, I kept figetting with my bag a lot.

A few weeks later I see them drunk in town and they're all like "HEY LOOK ITS THE CHICK WHO IS SCARED OF ME AND JONO"

It was so embarassing. I seriously felt like going up and hitting him.

Another time this lady I was with asked "Why do keep putting your lip balm on over and over again?" (I was nervous at the time and figetting yet again)

I just don't know how to respond to comments/questions like that. Any ideas?

I'd look right at them and say really loud "Don't judge me unless you walk a mile in my shoes. You get off making fun of other people, asswipe?"

Yup, and I think you will find all aspies experience this kind of embarrassment too so your not alone!

yeah the comments and criticisms never end, that's one of the reasons i keep away from people. it gets a bit easier when you're older though as everyone is a bit eccentric over 45.

If you are lucky, at the workplace you'll find a person who is patient and willing to work with you on things. A co-worker of mine often lets me know when I've gone beyond acceptable boundaries or if I need to modify something. For example, he let me know that I should not be rude and walk by offices and not say, "Good morning." It's kind of annoying and definitely perfunctory (in most cases), but I do it.

He jokes around with me and says that he's going to help take the ass out of Aspergers!

Yep, it's either how I walk, or how I talk, or how I do my hair, or the colour of my lipgloss, or just the fact that I happen to exist. Damn NTs.

"My wife wants to know why you are so blunt and opinionated."


That's the comment I got from someone in the email. I said it was just the way I am and I am very honest and did they want me to lie. I won't walk on eggshells.

Thats right I forgot other people are not like me and accually want to try and have friends.

Hmmmm

If people do that, I explain if I can. If they don't stop questioning, I find something that they do and question them about it.

it does not bother me much when NT's talk about my oddities.
(i am refraining from using the term "NT" so much now because it is prejudiced i calculated, but i will use it for this reply)

it only bothers me when there could be an influence upon my life's course because of their opinions. then i resist, but that has not happened much.

from work and friends i have found........
they wonder how i can be alive yet devoid of their passions.

when the concorde went down, i lamented the loss of such a beautiful plane and paid no regard to the passengers. that was noted.

with the loss of the shuttles i was concerned for the loss of the equipment and did not think much about the occupants.

with the 911 collapse of the world trade centers, i worried that the next version of flight simulator would not have the buildings included in the scenery.

all this was noted and people wondered how limited and bizzare my mind is.
there was much gossip about what i would answer to questions about the holocaust etc.

i saw that as witch hunting in a sense. i have not the capacity to feel their feelings and think in the direction their minds flow in, and they think i am bad.

apart from the social things, i am considered very odd in the way i walk to where i am going.
i choose where i am going to walk to and i follow a straight line to that point.

if anything suddenly blocks my path, then i stop walking and wait for it to go away.
last week when i had to go to the office, i was walking down a corridor toward my office and an executive director stopped and started talking to another person and they were in my path.
i stopped walking and waited for a few seconds for them to clear away from my path, but they did not.

then they became aware of me and thought that i wanted to join in their conversation.
but for me it was like waiting at a railway crossing for the train to pass and the gate to lift.

i said that i was simply waiting for them to get out of my way and they parted and i walked between them and continued on my way.

that was talked about much i was told.

apparently they were only blocking half the width of the corridor and i had plenty of room to walk around them but i failed to see it.

as long as they do not come home with me and pollute my world, then NT's can misapprehend to their hearts delight without my concern.

The answer...
It depends. If they're just curious, then give em a straight up answer. If they're just saying it to be dicks, then tell em to f**k off.

Responding isn't the hardest part, it's reading their intentions. That's how you decide how to respond.