Telling people to stop doing something to me?

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Sometimes my friends will poke me and won't stop when I ask. Then I'll tell them with a monotone voice, "Please do not do that." and if they don't stop I lose it. What can I tell them when they do things like this to make it stop before I shutdown or meltdown?

They probably keep poking you just so you "lose it." Getting you to "lose it"is the reaction that they want from you. Just act like the poking doesn't bother you and they'll get bored after a while and move on.

Well for a person with AS, to ignore them and their poking will be hard but do try. You might also want to consider are they real friends. Real friends do not do things which they know upset their friend.

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Diagnosed under the DSM5 rules with autism spectrum disorder, under DSM4 psychologist said would have been AS (299.80) but I suspect that I am somewhere between 299.80 and 299.00 (Autism) under DSM4.

Stay calm, and break their fingers.

I think if a nt has to hassle someone with as then they're the one with the problem.

The more you complain, the harder they are going to pester you.

Obviously they're poking you for a reason in the first place, that reason being they extract some sort of entertainment from it. Playing right into them will only make them poke you more/harder.

I'm not suggesting that 'ignoring it' is easy, esp. someone with an AS attributable complex, but they must be doing it for some reason, right? The more you complain the more they are going to push you, as it seems thats what these people enjoy.

Perhaps you should question their friendship altogether, I know for sure anyone who gets entertained by the discomfort they inflict on one of their 'friends' is not much of a friend at all

If you can't ignore their poking, then get up and walk away from them, without saying a single word to them. Let them figure it out for themselves.

You do not have to put up with such treatment.

I just do not enjoy the meltdowns and shutdowns in the presence of others. It's not good when I freak out or become rigid in class. Outside of class I can walk away, but in class I cannot.

When class is over, pull the teacher aside and report that you are being "harassed" in class. Make sure that teacher will give your 'friends' a good reprimanding.

I dunno if that'll work or not, but that's what I would do.

OR, I would take the poking person's finger, and bend it back until they are crying in pain.

YAY, a perfect example of an empathetic Aspie.