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Jamesy
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26 Jan 2009, 7:48 pm

I have aspergers syndrome and sementic pragmantic communication disorder, so this is why this situation might be tricky for me.

Basicly I don't really wan't to go into too much detail but I hate one of my friends who is in my social group so much that I feel like I wan't to murder or kill him at times, overall I hate him with a passion. I actually scare myself by how much hatred there is inside of me because of this one person. In short this guy is a wind up merchant. I feel like I am a danger to myself and others by thinking this way. This friend I am describing has wound me up in the past with his sense of humour and I feel he can get away with murder. I am in a very hard situation where I can't get away from this guy because he is part of my social group, I really am stuck on what to do? I have been thinking about leaving my social group because of this one person and its a very painful choice for me to make really. Are there any methods I could use to cope being around him and in his presence when out of with my friends?

This is putting under a lot of pressure and I am kind of stuck on what to do, but I just really need some tips on how I can get around and deal with this problem because I am desperatly depressed about this problem.

Thank you :)



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26 Jan 2009, 8:36 pm

I know this is a bit of an awkward question. But I just need some advice how to cope with this problem I am having thats all. Please...



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26 Jan 2009, 8:48 pm

You can't hate a friend, and you can't be friends with those you hate.

Either drop him as a friend, or get over your hate.



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26 Jan 2009, 9:47 pm

If you think it's a friendship worth saving, maybe you should just see if they'll respond to a quiet, reasonable discussion. Just stick to the facts, avoid loaded words and expressions, just state your case.

If that doesn't do it, then you need a new friend.



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27 Jan 2009, 1:17 am

All I can suggest is Cognitive Behavorial Therapy from a qualified therapist and reading books on Anger Management. Don't use Aspergers as an excuse for hating others as its clear you got a whole lot more than AS going on. Anger is not in the DSM for Aspergers.