Do you disappear for days?

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Do you often disappear for days and not want to talk to any of your family, friends, etc? I sometimes get this urge to either stay in my room and not talk to anyone or travel and spend days or weeks in some foreign country or at least another city. I believe that being away by myself is very cleansing and I love the fact that I don't have to communicate with anyone. I usually don't tell my family that I am away for a few days because they don't understand the point. They would freak out if they found out and think that I was either having anonymous sex, looking for a foreign partner, or doing drugs. The reality is that I just like to explore other places by myself and to just get away from people I know and associate with on a daily basis. It is very cathartic.

I think I need to keep this a secret because if I tell my family that I do this, they will be on my case. So far I've travelled alone and spent some wonderful days by myself in Dublin, Bonn, Cologne, Prague, and Philadelphia.

I used to disappear when I had no commitments. I'd deliberately go somewhere I knew I couldn't be found and loved it. It's a bit more difficult now I have kids and a mobile phone but I do sometimes wish I could. I found it incredibly calming and cathartic as you say.

I'd do it all the time, though lately I haven't had much of a chance. I just like getting everyone else out of my head - sometimes it gets a bit noisy upstairs, and if I don't bug out, I WILL bug out, if you get my meaning.

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Yes I used to do this all the time when I was single.Really annoyed the people in my life,no one really understood my need to do this.there are days now when I seriously have to struggle not to do this cause I have hubby and kids depending on me to be there.

My family won't allow me to just "disappear" because they worry about me. So we've come to an understanding. When I really need to be alone I tell them and vanish into my room for a few days. They leave me alone. (Although I don't do it for too long because it confuses and upsets the grandchildren.) But, yes, it is very helpful to just be alone sometimes. I can't wait for the weather to break so that I can start going out and hiking and camping. It's the next best thing to being alone.

I would if I could.
Unfortunately, I have responsibilities I can't just walk away from.

I don't have this issue, but I know people who do disappear for days, and it upsets me.

I sometimes disapear, it's like I have these spells where I don't really want to do much socialising. I'm sort of going through a disapearence now, I'm spending whole days in my room and playing on the computer and as soon as I turn it on I log myself off MSN because I just can't be bothered to chat to anyone.
I need to get my social life back on track, it used to be quite active but now it's running off I need to catch up with it

YES! I thought it was because I had agoraphobia, but even when I am happy, and healthy, I like to be alone a lot. For me personally, it seems like a chore sometimes to be around other people, because socializing does not come naturally. It's much harder with my age group. I always feel pressure to do this or say this, or what should i say next, what should i say at all, when should i say it. It is generally not 'fun-time' for me to be around other people, it is a source of stress. I could blame that on a horrible, painful upbringing and continuous failed relationships and even several un-reciprocated attempted friendships that failed, so maybe I simply do not trust people, much less trust that they would like the real me. Hmmm.... come to think of it it is probably a mix of both my Asperger's and me holding back or agoraphobic tendencies. But generally, I do like to be alone, I prefer it. For long periods of time. My own company and my own thoughts are very comfortable

I'm definitely familiar with the urge to escape or isolate myself for a while, now more so than ever because I really don't get the chance anymore, not even for half a day or so. Disappearing for a few days sounds very appealing, but at the moment I don't have the means or the confidence to just go traveling on my own like that.

What I've been really craving is a long walk in the English countryside, ever since I moved away. I used to go on walks whenever I got the opportunity back home, and relished the chance to just go off on my own and generally just enjoyed the sights, sounds and exercise. Now I'm in Florida and unfortunately I haven't been able to find any substitute for that so far.

Oh man, any hope I had left of convincing myself I'm not an Aspie continues to quickly disappear.

I do disappear, frequently. I need to, at least for a few hours every few days. In the past I used to disappear for days - my parents used to log onto my AIM and message random people to find me - one time my college roommate called the police - so I learned to at least touch base when I go AWOL. I need to be alone and free quite frequently.

I recently had to move back in with my parents, so finding uninterrupted quiet time is very difficult. I get very disoriented/can have extreme anxiety attacks if I need it and it is constantly disturbed, even if its a phone call or my mother (who has never understood this need and can be very intrusive) demanding I do something petty for her b/c I'm "not busy". I also bristle at questions about what I'm doing, even though I'm literally doing nothing. They assume I'm doing the worst things, but are also angry that I'm "wasting time". Its like if I tell them it devalues or takes something private and important away from me. I also get this way with ideas, interests or people - like I don't like saying the name of or talking about someone I have a crush on to other people.

Does that make any sense/anyone else feel this way about keeping the details of your disappearance to yourself?

i only rarely "appear", so my disappearance is not noticed as odd.

i live with 3 people in a somewhat small house so it's hard to completely disappear, but there are entire days where i don't see anyone other than my roommates, and even then i'll sometimes barely see them at all all day.

YES, I totally live my life like this. The only thing I plan for is bike races. I live with my parents and come and go as I like, they dont mind. For me life isn't any fun unless I can explore places and see things, meet people. You don't experience life to much sitting in your house all the time. I am happy to say I can fit everything I own into my car, and go as far as my money will take me. If I don't have any money at the time I can fill up a pack and go for a long hike or bike ride. Traveling and experiencing life is nothing to be ashamed of, to me spending all your time in your house, and never knowing what it is like anywhere else in the world, that is something to be ashamed of. The Buddhist call this Bodhi, meaning to awake, become aware, notice, they usually do this on there path to 'enlightenment'