Do you find yourself being self-centered?

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And how have you gone about fixing it.

I'll be perfectly honest, even when I have the best of intentions... I'm still thinking about myself most of the time. I find myself always switching a conversation back to my experiences what I enjoy. I can fake being interested in others, but that's just a side effect of my curiosity... my desire to know basically everything.

If someone makes some comment that I overhear, it's hard for me not to assume they are talking about me. I'm always curious about what others think about me.... not always to boost my self-image... but just as a curiosity.

Worst is when others jump to help people, it doesn't immediately jump into my head that I should help people.

I wish I could change this, but all my reactions and thoughts are 'me' centric...

I don't want to be... but that's just how it is...

'me' too

We're all like this to an extent. I'm a pretty self-centered bastard myself hahaha. I don't really care though, that's just the way I am...

This was one of my biggest issues in high school. I didn't realize it until senior year when I was actually trying to get to know people. That's when I realized that I was self-centered, and it depressed me greatly. I went through great lengths to try to get to know one particular person but by then it was too late.

What's tough about it is keeping a conversation flowing. It's easy to talk about your interests. I bet you, like me, could go on and on about your various interests, but when others are talking, it's hard to pay attention. I tend to zone out until what I'm hearing is, literally, "blah blah blah blah." I either ask them to repeat themselves or let it go.

It's not that I don't care, it's just that I'm probably distracted by something in my environment. Still, I go out of my way to ask questions when I can, (try to) make jokes, or nod my head.

My social life is terrible...so I can't really help much beyond what I've written

I suppose at times, I could act self centered and not realize it. I need to stop mentioning myself in conversations. I guess my problem is being self centered is not my intention but I could end up acting that way and not knowing it.

I'm definitely not as bad as I used to, but I still have to use stories of my own in order to relate to people, and it makes me look pretty selfish. I'm not really anymore though, I'm scared of hurting people's feeling all the time.

Yep, I can be quite self-centered when it comes to talking to others. But I've suffered from a heck of a lot of teasing and don't wish to step on others' boundaries... ugh.

Hum, i don't think of myself as quite self centered.... Maybe it's a matter of putting the greater good before your own? The only centric thing about me are probably my games... <.< (don't take em away from meee)

I don't think about others that much unless it's in relation to me somehow. But I don't imagine NTs spend their time thinking about people in ways totally irrelevant to them.

Oh man, I've definitely spent many years torturing myself about being self-centered, now I have trouble thinking about my needs without feeing "guilt-blocks." I tend to be lost in my own thoughts and interests generally, but I do tend to be very compassionate about others' pain when I see it. Maybe that's because I have *such* a low pain tolerance myself!

*sigh* Me too. Sometimes, depending on the person, I can think of questions to ask them about themselves but I have a hard time keeping conversations going. That's when I default back to all the 'me' talk.

I don't like discovering I have been noticably self centred, as I do actively (and often grudgingly) try not to be.
I have realised however, that although I believe friendships are 50/50, in actual terms I contribute about 30% effort, however it *feels* like I'm trying much harder.....

Oh ok. I am incurably selfish and don't play nicely with the other children!!