I Want To Make A Friend

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I've set as a goal to make two friends, but one could be enough. I've been here in OR six weeks and all I have is BF. I joined a writer's group but no one in there would make a good friend.

It hurts not to have at least one friend, and to never have really had one. I had a counseling session where I would talk about anything (usually my job) besides my pain inside.

I keep having second thoughts about BF, because maintaining a romantic relationship (esp with another bipolar aspie) is such hard work. But, he's all I have.

Does anyone else have a good friend? How did you make them?

I have a couple of good friends, but i didn't make them (well not actively), i just happened to bump on them along the way and they happened to care (rare thing these days), my best friend is actually a guy 5 years older and he's a singer, lol, sings opera. anyway, met him back when i was in college, even thou I've hurt him a couple of times by being blunt and such he still cares, it's nice to have someone who listens. I guess i was lucky on that matter.

I have one really good friend, and I have no clue how it happened. Just one of those things that sneaks up on you somehow. We don't see each other much anymore, life work, ect, but consider each other family.

I have several friends in real life. I've made most of them from work. Actually, mostly everyone I work with are friends with each other. If you want someone to talk to online (yahoo messenger or something), let me know. It would be nice to chat with someone that could better understand me.

Thanks everybody!

Hey, I just got back from my writer's group and I told them I have AS and no one cared. We had a fun conversation and I was happy and light and felt comfortable and free. I felt almost like an NT. Of course, I was stimming a bit and blurted out what might have been inappropriate once or twice. I had the thought that I couldn't possibly be autistic, since I was doing so well. Of course, I know I am!

It was pretty wild. I felt inspired to write after that. Very!

Still, no key friend is emerging from the group.

I might reach out and email you, Silverstar. Thanks!

Trying to make friends never works. I've never made a friend by attempting to befriend them. The friends I have just happened.
About feeling NT because of doing so well socially, I'm like that most of the time these days. It just takes lots of practice. That's obviously a fundamental part as to how quickly an aspie's social skills develop.

I've found MSN has been a great help to me. It's simply easier to talk, and it's possible to forge friendships outside your geographical area.

Here's my MSN if you want to talk: erik_henki@hotmail.com

I live in OR, too. What are you into besides writing?

I think I am in a similar situation as you, whitetiger. I have been in the same town for over 10 years and I have not made a single friend since freshman year of highschool (several years ago) and even that friend and I are not best friends. It's hard, but I have the same goal - make at least one friend in this town.

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