Putting my sister's new boyfriend at ease.

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Backstory: My sister's last boyfriend was often at the house for tea/dinner, which is a gathering of the family at my house. Because he was a 'stranger', I found it quite difficult having him round, so I didn't speak at all or look at him. I also left the table as soon as possible.

This behaviour, my parents tell me, made her boyfriend uncomfortable, for it seemed to him that I had a hatred for him, though this was not the case.

Now, my sister has a new boyfriend and I am quite anxious not to cause him the same discomfort as I did the last one, for this is something - I am told by my parents - that is important to my sister. Does anyone have any advice on how I could go about this?

Probably all you have to do is acknowledge him; maybe say hi in a pleasant tone of voice. Past that, I don't think you need to do anything other than replying in a basic way to some things he says to you, which probably won't be much.

I'm just guessing though.

you do not need to do anything. just go on with your normal life when he comes. you can play on the computer and stuff. he really won't care and i bet your sister does not too. it is all not a big deal at all. you can relax - you are fine.

oh my, L2S, that's what MOST of my brother and sister do when they invite their bf or gf over <.< . (Well, more like, brother spends time alone while sis is with her bf, and vice-versa)