Anyone Have Trouble Being Interdependent?

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I have much trouble with this especially when it comes to travelling. I don't drive and I find it very difficult to ask for help or understand directions right away. So I either weight it out or just not bother. It's especially hard having no transportation.

This is one of the few reasons why it's hard for me to get out and do anything "new". I hate having to be the one who needs help or doesn't know my surroundings. It's even worse when it comes to directions.... >_<

Anyone else have trouble with this?

Uh, yeah, a little.

Oh yes, big time. I do drive but if I'm on my own I can't navigate myself very easily and I can't afford a sat nav. That would probably distract me anyway, having a silly voice telling me where to go. Sometimes I try to memorise a route but that doesn't always work for me.

Now if I'm not driving, then I would very likely have trouble following other people's directions, so to sum up, I'd probably not try many new places either.

YES. i think its one of my biggest problems.
i dont drive and im really nervous when im in new surroundings, i like things i know well and when my surroundings change it takes me a long time to adjust to it mentally.
thats why i find it distressing being some place new, i get lost so easily, and im very bad when it comes to following peoples directions.
im taking a trip out of state soon and that scares me to no end, its just going to be a holiday by myself and my biggest fear is just that i'll get lost.

I also have a recurring dream where I'm lost. I'm in a part of London that I feel I know well because I know it by name but it doesn't look right. So I get on a bus and sure enough, it ends up in the countryside, at night when it's dark and I have no idea how to get home.

One time, I got on a bus in London thinking it would take me to where I wanted to go or nearby and ended up at a bus garage at the end of the route. I managed to get the right bus in the end but I felt really foolish. I didn't want to tell anybody about it.

Yes I have these problems, I am terrible with directions and it usually takes me forever to get used to a place or timetable. And also when I am stuck with directions I can nevr ask anyone and when I do it just comes out really fast and they ask me to repeat again and that makes me nervous.
I am hopeless

Yep, and it worries my parents, because i'm not even capable of getting a job. =/

This is me.

I've gotten really good at doing *everything* for myself - too good. I'm to the point where there is almost nothing that is out of the question - if I want to do it, I will do it.

So this is a problem for me, because I'm also at a point in my life where I want (need) to bring people in - have friends. But I have trouble with the whole "interdependence" thing.

I know this is part of the whole give-and-take of the "social contract" - but I'm stumped as to how to implement it in my life. Do I pretend to need assistance in order to bond with someone? That seems too deceptive.

The things I do need help with are sort of big - like getting someone to drive me to the doctor (I drive, but I need to go for a procedure that requires anesthesia & they won't let me come alone.) So that would require someone to take the afternoon off & wait to drive me home. For me, the question is how to get to the point in a friendship when it wouldn't be a huge imposition to ask them to take time off from work to spend helping me.

I'd take the easy way out and take a taxi if the cost wasn't too prohibitive. At least then you don't have to forge a relationship with the driver. Even if he's overly chatty, at least it's just for a journey.

Apparently, they don't allow patients to come by taxi - unless it's a special medical taxi service, which I think is quite expensive (and I don't think is covered by my medical insurance.) I went to this same clinic once before, using public transportation & was *just* able to talk them into doing the procedure w/o anesthetic (in that case, it wasn't really necessary anyway - a local worked just fine.) This time, it's a different procedure & has to be done under general anesthetic.

I wish they had cheap or seemingly affordable taxis in my area.. -_-

Yep, I do this a lot unfortunately, always have. For instance, on this one occasion in the third grade when our bus arrived late from a basketball game and we were told to go inside and call our parents from the office, I couldn't do it so started walking the twenty miles home. My parents found me walking along the highway an hour later.

Luckily I will always bring my phone everywhere I go:)