I have 556 Facebook friends. How many will I lose when I...

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...reveal my Asperger's in a set of 6 or 7 journal entries?

Plenty of people have wondered how/why I am the way I am, and when they learn about my life with this Syndrome on these blog posts on Facebook, I wonder how they'll feel about and react to, this.

But most of all, how many friends should I expect to lose when I post these entries?

Addend: In case anyone doesn't believe I could POSSIBLY have 556 friends, here's a screenshot:

http://picasaweb.google.com/lh/photo/5v ... directlink

Last edited by EgaoNoGenki on 11 Apr 2009, 12:18 pm, edited 3 times in total.

none of them

all of them

what makes a 'friend' on Facebook, anyway?

Merle

I doubt they're your friends so I guess you'll lose nothing.

Anyone who removes you from their friend list because you reveal that you are autistic, was never your friend to begin with. Thus, you lose nothing.

I love your words, Orwell. Let's hope it's someone I'd expect to be removed from instead of a real good friend that I'd never expect for him/her to remove me in a hundred years!

I would only remove someone if they kept spamming me with tons and tons of notifications and stuff, because I worry I will miss something important from someone I really care about. It happens. So if you send out a lot of stuff, that could be the reason- not the content itself. (Do people even read content anymore? Or just skim? Or ignore?)

Riverrotter, that's why I'll post this 6 or 7-part note only once a day. (Though that'll let me post one at 11:58 PM and 12:02 AM if it comes to that.)

Well, how many of these people are actual friends, and how many of them are people you added after speaking to them once online? I would be willing to wager that the large majority of them are people that you've never met. How many of them do you think commonly read your profile?

The online friends, you don't really have to worry about. Some of them might have culled you from their friends list anyways, without disclosure. They're no biggie.

The friends and acquaintances that you DO have in real life might be more of an issue. People generally aren't too comfortable around people with disorders, unless they themselves have disorders, or are already close friends/family with people that do. And some disorders people are more uncomfortable with than others. For example, someone might be fine and dandy with paraplegia, but god forbid if one of those Down's Syndrome people start talking to them! Or someone with schizophrenia. The legal system hasn't made them look very good.

If some of your online chat buddies are uncomfortable, who cares? There are plenty more where they came from. But if some of your REAL friends and acquaintances are uncomfortable, then not only are you losing Facebook friends, it will make your day-to-day life a whole lot more awkward.

Think the Writing Tutor times 5. Could you really deal with that?

The funny thing about unexpected events in your life, in my experience, is that it can be very surprising to find out who your friends really are. Some people who you've previously thought of as true friends, can let you down. And conversely, people who you've previously thought of as mere acquaintances can really surprise you and stand by you and 'step up to the plate' and be supportive and friendly and helpful in ways that you would never have imagined possible. It's good and bad.

some people will and some people wont.
it happens to me all the time on facebook & myspace.

Through all this, hopefully I'll stay above 500.

Why care? How many of those 500 'friends' will answer the phone and explain some weird nonverbal or social situation to you? How many of them will commiserate with you when your girlfriend breaks up with you and take you out for a drink to talk about it/get over it?

For me, Facebook is a collection of people I've met. Of 100 people on my list, 10 are actual friends, and maybe 5 or 6 of those are good friends... fewer would do what I described above.

Depends on what you define as friendship...

Some are fair weathered, some are forever, and some are only sold for a limited amount of time guaranteed!

I actually feel that I have too many FB friends in that not all of them are people I truly consider friends. There's something like 150 people on my list, though it could be more if I accepted friend requests from people I went to school with but don't really know. I occasionally go through and try to cut out some of the people I don't really know, because I would rather keep FB to people I actually consider friends- if I were to start FB anew, I would make different decisions in regards to adding people, but I can't very well go and delete 3/4 of my friend list now.

This thread was just an excuse to show your amount of friends isn't it, oh you popular aspie.

Realistically, no-one reads everyone's profile 24/7 so I wouldn't worry too much. If any delete you, then they are not your real friend. Those that ask why you are the way you are are closer to a real friend