Worrying.

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Hi im new to this group and my name is Mackenzie. I'm fifteen years old and i have a worrying problem that happens non stop.

a friend of myne said that my girlfriend looked hot today, and i said, "your brave to tell me that"

im just wondering if i can get into trouble with the law or school for saying that??

I can't say for certain because I don't know where you live, but I don't see why you should get in trouble. Then again, I'd have taken it as a compliment! Having a girlfriend other people think is hot is no bad thing at all. In fact, if anything, it's in your favour.

Thank you that helps me feel better, i just worry alot

Woody I can not imagine for a moment why you would get in trouble for that. It's not even a threat so there is nothing wrong with it.

Thanks for helping me out

I was thinking the same thing, no worries

dont worry, you wont get into trouble for saying that the most frustrating thing about aspergers is worrying, i have a real problem with it too, so you're not alone! its just really difficult to be rational most of the time. i worry if i dont get replies to text messages or if someone is quiet for a while i start to worry and think somethings wrong. has anyone got any strategies for coping with worry and anxiety? any ideas i would be grateful for

Just try and force yourself to think logical. even if its hard, even if you keep getting trapped in the irrational fear - just FORCE yourself to think of what is logical. like with the situation of not getting a reply to a text, what is logical?:

1. the person might have run out of credit.
2. their phone may have died.
3. they may have left their phone in one place and moved to another place, and thus can not hear their phone and do not know that you have texted them.
4. they may have received your text and then been distracted, so they forgot to reply.

Do you see what I mean? And it may help you to literally LIST things, as I just did. Just to help you bring yourself out of the fear, and put logic in to your head. Its not easy so dont be hard on yourself. and the next thing to do is forget about it. if it is soomething that is out of you control there is absolutely NO point stressing about it. distract yourself with something else and forget about the thing you are worrying about. and if it involves other people leaving you hanging, then you have to leave them to it.

*hugs*

Rik

If your comment to that person was meant in jest, I get it and perhaps they did too. But I also see how it could come off as somewhat mildly threatening or like it was a warning not to make a comment like that again. Either way, I wouldn't obsess over it. I remember how awkward it felt to be 15. Sometimes what you want to say just comes out all wrong in effort to socialize or try to "be on the level" with your peers. I also know what its like to replay an instance in my head over and over or a how a future instance could play out every which way, but you just end up over analyzing everything in the end. I know its hard to just take things as they come, but you CAN have moments like that. So, just relax and be you... and remember that if someone is complimenting your girlfriend to you, they're really complimenting you - thats never a bad thing! Next time, perhaps a "thanks, I agree" and a grin might better suited.