Asking to many questions

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I often ask questions of my husband, if he is on the computer I ask what are you doing, if he has to go somewhere I ask about it, etc....Well my husband has told me that it get really annoying to him. I don't feel I'm that bad. Because to me asking all the questions is my way of showing that I am interested in what he is doing. He does not tell me about things, so I feel I always have to ask because he does not volunteer information.

Do you you guys ever become like over bearring with someone always in their face, asking questionsthe way I do? Should I back off? What will happen if I do?

My husband says that MOST guys do not like this when girls do this....

Your husband makes a fair enough point. You might wanna try and back off.

People say that I ask a lot of questions, that I'm very thorough. I must be doing it the right way though because they don't seem to perceive it as a bad thing (most of the time at least). The main reason I do it is because my thinking is very literal (and also very visual) - I find I need to ask a lot of questions and do a lot of clarifying all the time to make sure I'm on the right track, that I'm understanding things correctly. Especially if something is vague - my mind doesn't automatically fill in the blanks or read between the lines like NTs seem to do, I need to have every detail explicitly spelled out.

That's no problem. People like us are inquisitive.

I've actually been on both sides. People have accused me of this, or I sensed myself that I was doing this, but at the same time, I also feel like people have been intrusive with me, and I didn't like it. So of course, now I'm trying to make sure that I don't get that way.

My dad hates it when mum does that, but he has AS.

I also hate it when people do it to me.

I don't see any reason to not be interested or back off though, I mean what you're saying isn't crossing any lines or anything.

I guess some people are just different.