Buying friends expensive christmas presents?

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Why can you not buy friends expensive christmas presents? I have three friends but according to one of them they are not close friends therefore I can only spend £7 max on each of them because of social rules. Apparently the person would be embarrased if I were to spend £100 on them. Anybody know why this is?

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If I had the money, I'd shamelessly spend thousnds of dollars on family and friends alike! I'd even ship stuff to a few people here. Since frequenty come off like a complete ass, and that would be my way of showing I care.

To be honest, if I recieved an expensive gift that wasn't from family, I would think the person had a thing for me.

What is a thing for me?

They are my friends, most other people won't be, so why can't i reward them by buying them expensive gifts?

If you spend a lot of money on someone, it puts them in a bad position, like other people said. They feel obligated to spend to return the favor, and if they don't have the money to spare on a similarly expensive gift, then they just feel bad. Even if you don't demand that they buy you something expensive, they still feel like they should reciprocate in order to be a decent human being.

Basically, money can't buy friends. It's just not how it works, and in the off-chance that they don't feel bad about not returning the favor, then they're not worth being friends with. I'd reccomend MAKING your own gifts for them; it doesn't cost as much to you, it doesn't make them feel obligated to pay a lot of money, and showing that you care by spending the time on something like a card or a piece of artwork or a handcrafted item.

That's what I'm planning on doing for my friends, at least.

Because the recepient of the gift will feel that you have put yourself out for them excessively, or perhaps are trying to "buy" their friendship? I once had someone offer and expensive present and I refused it because it made me too uncomfortable.

That's the only reason I can think of.