How judgemental are you?

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I'm more careful than judgemental, I like to analyze things/people before I condemn them to be something.

Same here. I need to make observations and subsequently come up with a judgment regarding the merits of a person or situation. I have become more willing to alter such a judgment, should the facts change.
Prejudice is something else again, a quality that I cannot condone.

I've been told that when people do things that don't seem to add up with all the other variables around you, they have 'other issues' happening at the same time that I don't know about.
When someone does something I don't understand, I try to imagine what influenced their actions. I'll drift away from the 'because it's the normal thing to do!' and go after more creative answers.
What could have been happening to them? Was the telemarketer really pushy because the new incentive scheme in their office is the lowest performing salesperson gets shot at lunchtime? Maybe the a****** roommate in an above post had a nasty childhood incident involving doors, a family pet and half a tub of butter. We'll never know. It's fun to think about though.

I don't think I'm a very judgmental person. That's not to say that I'm never judgmental, but contrary to what other people in this thread are saying, I usually am good about giving people the benefit of the doubt, and seeing the best in them until something bad about them becomes shoved in my face. I'm not one to take one personality trait of a person and make assumptions about them. Maybe sometimes I do it subconsciously, but I quickly dismiss the judgment in my head.

I have found different regions of the country are much more judgemental than others. When you live with it, it is hard not to if you want to join in the conversation. Many times I just stand there rather than take part in the massacre. I maybe left out, but am I really missing anything? No, I don't think so.

I'm sure I'm more judgmental than I think I am. But then again, the same could probably be said about anybody.

I will answer this: I try not to be judgmental. But it doesn't always work out.

Me too.

But a very low tolerance for normal illogical selfishness.
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I don't judge people, because it's a waste of mind power.

People tell me i am extremely judgemental. In response i ask, how can you not voice an opinion, or perhaps even speak without expressing a judgement of SOMETHING. I try to tell people to precede everything i say with "It is my opinion that-" but it doesn't seem to be working. So i'm strongly thinking of withdrawing completely into a total recluse, coming out only to influence my job, and other necessary social interactions, and then surround myself in a fantasy world of my own creation through writing.

I am not judgemental I have to many judgemental family members and friends in My Life so I tend not to be judgemental at all.

Remember: Judge not or be Judged.

It seem to me aspies here are more analyatical instead of Judgmental.

I personally am a analyaticalist when it comes to people and meeting others.

In a general sense, I'm not judgemental. I mean that I don't have a problem with certain types of people. In personal relationships with others, I am often quite judgemental. I can honestly say that there are certain types of people that I'd rather not be friends with.

I'm kind of strange about this. My reaction to most people I meet is dislike or utter indifference. It's very rare for me to like someone on a first meeting. But after I've gotten to know people a little better (it takes a while, partly because I don't try) I stop disliking them and start thinking they're OK. I dislike most people I meet, but I dislike scarcely anybody once I've been around them for a couple of months.

As for people I genuinely like, they can do absolutely anything short of murdering my mother and I'll think it's fine.

I'm extremely judgemental. Im really ashamed of this fact. I typically keep my opinions to myself unless I'm really pissed off though.

If I don't know a person, I don't have anything mean to say about them. Like at school there's this ridiculously gorgeous girl who's a grade below me, and everyone is like "ew ___ is chinese" (she's really not her eyes just look it a little bit) and one guy was jokingly plotting out her death. I mean wtf?!? Just because she's living this crazy lifestyle and she's got a body that every girl could only dream about doesn't mean she deserves all this crap. Sure, I've heard she can be a bit of an idiot, but can't we all? she seems perfectly nice to me at least - from the one time i've spoken to her.

Yeah, but if I know a little bit about a person, and if it's not in their favor (or mine), then I'm liable to give them some crap. Like one guy has been giving me a really hard time these past few years, so of course I'm gonna judge him right? You know, pick out his flaws because he gives me such a hard time, that whole, "if hes so cruel to people he must have some serious issues" thing. It got so bad that I ended up trashing him in my livejournal - and HE FOUND IT. He didn't try to say that what I said about him wasn't true, he just was like "don't judge me" I still don't think I did anything wrong. He ruined my life in middle school, and I DIDN'T EVEN MENTION HIS NAME IN MY F*CKING JOURNAL! Even though I was being a total b***h, I still think he deserves it.

Otherwise, I try not to talk about people behind their backs, you know, judgementally. Unless a) it's with a bunch of close friends and we all think the same thing, b) i don't mention who the person is, or c) it's about a teacher who i absolutely hate and we all think the same thing.

So yeah. I do judge people a bit, but i think it's all human nature. I'm gonna try to cut back though, give people a break. I really wish I could be a bit nicer.

And no, I don't think anything poorly of any of you people! I love you all! Hug!! !

Last edited by iamlucille on 16 Jan 2006, 1:26 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I know that every human being on this planet are judgemental at various degrees -- minor or major -- and those who say that they aren't judgemental aren't human and are lying to themselves.

How does the human individual assert themselves without judging others, then? It's impossible.

So, no matter how tolerant you may think you are of others, everyone has a limit.

I find it quite hard to comprehend this devide in which some people seem to draw between those who are NT or those with AS. Because surley most diagnosises of Aspergers, autism and other such neurological conditions occur later in the individuals life. So for the most part you would probably be convinced that there is in fact nothing much different in terms of brain construction than your peers?
Well at any rate I just though I was just a bit akward when it came to people.

As far as passing negative judgement, I do it all the time. If I'm walking around norwich and I see an Emo Kid I'll greet them in a sardonic manner, or at a party and there are people who pertain to the Emo subculture I may say negative things which I am thinking concerning Emo music.
I also discrimate largely on classs, I'd typically pick up on someone who originates from a middle-class (or higher) backround I'd verbally chastise them.
It's one thing that I struggle to control is my judgemental nature.