Need help with coping with TSS.

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Hi, my name is Tim, I'm 17 years old, and I have to say that I used to have a TSS (therapeutic support staff) and BSC (Behavior Specialist) at school, but recently in 9th Grade, it was come to agreement that I didn't need a TSS and/or BSC. I needed a TSS & BSC at the time due to some trouble with anger, social skills, etc.

Now, this January, I had a horrible incident that led my frustration to trashing the house. After that, it was come to agreement, with even me, that I needed help with my anger, my social skills, and my life. Of course after I did trash the house, my Mom had to call the cops and I was transported to a hospital, then to Philhaven, which is a treatment center. After spending a whole week in Philhaven, some major changes had to be made (meds, scheduling, etc.) and, before I knew it, I had to have a TSS & BSC again. This time, for home.

Apparently, I am doing pretty good with my psychiatrist, I'm doing okay with my BSC, but the most trouble I am having with my TSS. Now, I do realize that my TSS, John, is still trying to learn how to help me, but I am feeling really like an emotional mess being with him about 2-some hours a day, 10-some hours a week. For example, I start getting a little stressed, he starts doing something that adds stress, I get more stressed, then the stress level gets too much for him to deal with normally that he has to add "consequences" or warning of "consequences" to play. Now, how am I suppose to not feel like reacting so angerly if he's doing that!?

Now, I realize I need to be accountable for my own behavior, but shouldn't the TSS be accountable, too, if he does something that isn't helping?

I wish there was someone that could give me advice about this or making an encouragement of something like "I know exactly what that's like." I just came home from a very stressful situation, so I guess that's why I posted this, as I came home as nervous as heck.

Does anyone have any advice on this situation?

Sorry for the double post, but it's been a day and nobody responded. Why is that? Doesn't anybody care or what?

*sigh* I guess I just expected at least one response, not to be rude or anything.

Have you told him when he is doing something that makes you more stressed out? If he does not know that what he is doing contributes to your stress, then he will continue to do it.

I guess it's kind of hard to when it happens out of the blue or without warning. Quite recently, he has stressed me out so quickly and so much that I already start to get into my anger habits, which I don't think I need to explain about since I'm sure lots of people are familiar with what we, AS teens, do when were angry.

What I mean by John stressing me out so quickly and so much is that one minute, we would be having a great time and all of a sudden, he says something that really offends or frustrates me. I doubt he means to do that, but I still get the conclusion that he, apparently, doesn't always "think before he speaks."

Personally, I don't know what my role is as the patient when the TSS is possibly making a mistake. Do I really have ANY right, as a 17-year-old teenager & patient, to suggest that maybe he should "think before he speaks?"

I hope I clarified a little more on this situation.

Of course you do. You might try asking to work with someone else instead, too.

Does he think you're not trying?

Um, I'm not sure. I guess sometimes, he thinks I am not trying, but I guess one of the hard things about having him for a TSS is that I'm not sure if I totally agree with the things he has planned for me, as well as the things he believes.

Now, as for asking to work with someone else, I don't know if this case might be severe enough for Mom to consider a different TSS.

I'm still confused as to what to do, but thankfully, I don't see him until pretty much next week, since the TSS is busy with other things as of the moment. Hopefully, maybe I'll think about what to do from then on.

Does anyone know if I should do anything or not?

Perhaps people are not responding because you used TSS in your title. For the greater part of the world knows TSS to stand for Toxic Shock Syndrome, a serious and complicated infection that women get from using tampons.

As for your problem with your support person, I think communication is the only thing that can help. You need to find a way to tell him that his behavior is not helpful and is contributing to your stress. It is best to do this before things get out of hand.

Oh. Sorry, is there a way I can change the topic to "Need Help Coping With Therapuetic Staff Member"?

And thanks for the advice, I'll see what I can do.

That's awful! I am so sorry that you have to deal with that. It would feel such an insult to me to have to have someone following me around all the time at the age of 17.

I don't know, ask for another one, or ask for a family discussion where you decide together what is and what is not acceptable?

good luck
Kate

PS if you click the edit button you might be able to change the title of the post