What should I do if he comes back?

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I've been wondering what I should do if a friend of mine I had a issue with comes back to visit our friends on campus? Short version of the story is he asked me if I'd be interested in a threesome w/ him, freaked me out but apologized. His ex girlfriend mentioned he may be coming this weekend...
Or some other time during the semester. This is gonna be AWKWARD if he comes back... Also, most of my friends know what happened (had a panic attack, called one, emailed another & told the others b/c I didn't want them to set me off by touching me b/c that makes me worse when I'm already shaken up... It'll be hard for them too . I know its not my fault, but I wish there was a way to keep my friends from being in a bad spot too?

How long is he visiting for? If it's a weekend, I'd suggest booking a room in a youth hostel in another town for a couple of days or go stay with your parents for a bit.

Although to be honest, he's the one who should be ashamed. If you stay in your room and just say 'hi' when you see him, nothing should happen.

I would guess his apology means he will not ask again, and that the fact you turned him away would keep him from mentioning anything to anyone about any of this. Overall, I would just go on about my business and treat him as a mere acquaintance of some of your friends.

No youth hostels near me (not sure where they are in the US? hmm, curious?) I'm just hoping he doesn't bring it up if he comes & I'm planning to call a friend & possibly ask to stay w/ them (their are apartments on campus) if he bothers me (not likely, but he knows where my dorm room is b/c we were in the same building last sem). Plus theirs a good chance if he's a problem my friends will get pissed & I'll just get someone to take me to campus security. Period. I just hope that doesn't happen b/c its gonna be a problem for my friends . Also, I haven't told my parents about it b/c they're paranoid & will assume I've been raped...