SoSayWeAll wrote:
For most women, is it that you are simply attracted by personality, mind, and looks, but the actual desire to be physically involved only manifests over time? Or is that normally felt right away when you are interested in a relationship with a man? Am I just expecting something to occur out of its natural sequence?
I myself dont go getting sexual attractions to any man (or women either) unless im actually already with that person, then it happens. I have no sexual interest at all towards someone who isnt my boyfriend. (but with my boyfriend i have a lot of sexual attraction and find myself highly sexual).
It very rarely happens when i are attracted to a male (as I said that is different way to sexual attraction). I went throu a 9yr period before I came across a guy who interested me (I'd had a couple of males in my life before that). Ive also had a couple of others since then. But its all luck in meeting one I feel a connection of some kind with and its something which i can rarely find
My interest is more to do with an attraction to the other persons mind and personality (and soul), they have to have some similar interests as me.
eg my special interest is medical.. my current partner has a medical fetish (his name everyone knows him by due to that is Doc). Im attracted to medical people...doctors, nurses as I can talk to them and they understand the things i talk about.
If you find one with similar mental connection or interests as yourself.. its far easier to be interested in that person (and once one has known a person then for a while, Ive found one can gain a close connection).