Confused about school.

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My parents have this view that before I didn't take college seriously I used it as a social tool it's about getting a degree etc. etc. I did try to make friends (and failed miserably) but I did a paper over the Christmas holidays for the Spring semester) IMO THIS is taking class seriously!! ! My parents keep shoving this view down my throat. Oh you're going there to socialize it's about getting a degree not making friends! I disagree (yet my parents don't care to listen to MY SIDE!) Sure I was excited for classes/the work (which looking on it I need to "tone down" since most others will not have my enthusiasm but otherwise IMO my behavior was fine. The reason for the confusion I have my view mom/dad have theirs. College IMO is MORE than the degree and education it's about making friends aswell. (Perhaps learning of AS and my issues with it I can change some of my behaviors) I'm not so sure though.

Quit talking to your parents about your social aspirations for college, then, since they are so unsupportive. College is a time for social networking and it's where many people meet their future spouse--your parents are wrong to try to force you to believe that it is only academic. You seem to keep falling into this trap of thinking that it's an either/or proposition (either social OR academic) when in reality it is both.

Thanks! I myself believe it's both and I agree you meet some of your life long friends from "back in college" and the "You've been friends ever since college" etc. I've heard these 2 comments before and the spouse thing you mention so it HAS to be a little of both. I shouldn't think on what my parents say and not let it get me so down. (IMO this is ONE behavior I need to try to fix but it's SO hard!)

My parents encouraged the exact opposite when I went off to school. They told me to make sure that I talk to people and go to meals with other people and make study groups and make friends. They didn't seem as concerned about my academics.

The way I see it, parents usually want you to have a happy medium between social and academic, but depending on which side of it you're already focused on, they might seem more like they're supporting the opposite. This isn't an attempt to get you to give up your socializing, it's they're attempt to help you balance between the two because they're not sure you can achieve that balance on your own.

My parents encouraged the exact opposite when I went off to school. They told me to make sure that I talk to people and go to meals with other people and make study groups and make friends. They didn't seem as concerned about my academics.

The way I see it, parents usually want you to have a happy medium between social and academic, but depending on which side of it you're already focused on, they might seem more like they're supporting the opposite. This isn't an attempt to get you to give up your socializing, it's they're attempt to help you balance between the two because they're not sure you can achieve that balance on your own.