Parent Problems (yeah...I know)

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Everyone has them. Is it worse for autistic people? I don't know. But I feel like I need a good rant.

I hate it when my step-dad comes in from work and immediately starts spouting off a list of things I need to do, and then adds some things because I've been irresponsible lately and haven't been keeping up. And then he decides to put some of my sister's chores over onto me, and she never even does hers anyway but they overlook that. (She's sitting in a spare room right now gossiping to her stupid friends on the phone).

When my step-dad does this, I really don't care (they're just basic chores, it's nothing much) but I do get a little annoyed when he stands in my room staring at me and waiting for some kind of a response (which of course I give him, in the hopes that he will go away). But the problem is that he has already annoyed me enough so that I don't feel like putting up my usual facade of happiness and enthusiasm, so my dull nods and "okays" are seen as being disrespecful. And then he gets more angry, and stays in here talking to me for even LONGER which only increases my lack of response.

AH sometimes I wish I would just tell my parents about my autism. My mom has three masters in psychology, so she would understand, right? Whatever. I'll get over it.

/rant. Sorry guys.

Maybe you and your mom need to have a talk. If you can talk to your mom without your stepdad being around, she might be able to help with the situation and assist in facilitating a mutual understanding between you and your stepdad.

No, I actually get along really well with my step dad, much better than I do with any of my actual family. Because of that, he takes it upon himself to try and "fix" some of my shortcomings in the responsibility department. My mom and I have other problems that I won't go into, most of them having to do with the fact that she doesn't relate to me very well. She thinks a lot of things about me that aren't necessarily true, but that I don't bother to correct.

Has anyone else not told their parents about AS?

I have mentioned to my Mum that I think I fit many of the criteria for AS, but have not explained anything about what that implies.

If you can trust the person, then it's better being out.

It's worse for people with A.S. and I think you should talk to your parents I think they will understand especially your mom If they don't I am sorry

you are undiagnosed, right? maybe you should see a docter about it, when i was diagnosed, my parents were checking to see if i had ocd. you should talk to them about it, if you are scared to, try and find a way for them to see you on here and make sure they notice the name, and understand, i always find it easier to show someone something rather than tell them. i think this chores thing wouldn't be as much as a problem if your step dad understood you (or your as) better, one probem i have b/c of my AS is i can't stand it when people give me a list of things to do, it is easier if they just tell me the next one after i finished the first. i hope i helped with this post. i seriously think your parents should know.

I'd correct them - it might make it easier for the two of you to get on. And telling parents about AS can be a long, difficult process, but I think if you try your hardest to get them educated it can be worth it in the end.