cameleon like?

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I think I've actually lost a lot of my NT front. I can manage, but it seems to take more energy, and fewer people can overload me. I'm not sure whether this bothers me or not. There's a reaction, but I haven't been able to interpret it.

And yeah, your friend probably just thought that, not really beyond the surface, just appearances. It seems to me NTs are often about appearances, or maybe I'm bitter about certain NTs choosing to tell me what I think and not listening to what I say I think.

I did this until very recently........now I'm trying to stop. The way I speak naturally is very formal and pedantic. I don't have any cute mannerisms or phrases that are my own.............I don't spontaneously do things that other people find cute and respond well to. I do have idiosyncratic mannerisms but they are perceived as weird or awkward (well they are weird or awkward). Anyways I mimic my girlfriend's (whoever my friend is at the time) mannerisms. The last two friends I had called me on this. The second last one accused me of "stealing her expressions" and said that it made me seem "fake" and that I didn't "need to do it because I had my own personality". The one I have now (although were losing touch) made a joke in front of a group of people about how I always copy her. It was really embarrassing for me, but it was a joke and she and everybody laughed. I'm trying to be myself and not do this anymore........................

When you don't seem to naturally fit in with any group, sometimes you pick one and try to squish yourself in.
Just for the sake of being part of something.

I took "chameleon-like" to mean constantly-changing oneself...
that definitely describes me, though I'm thinking mostly about aesthetics and clothing and such.