How did your bf/gf know that you were gay/lesbian?

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what ive always wondered is how exactly do you find the right one for you when your a gay/lesbian, im gay and ive always wondered if i do find the right one for me, how will i know that he is gay and would be willing to be in a relationship with me, would they just come out and say it, or are there signs? how did your bf/gf know that you were gay/lesbian?

I guess one way would be to make yourself involved with LGBT-related organizations and events in your area (though, from what you've told me about your hometown, I doubt there's that many opportunities available to you). Are there any bigger cities nearby that you could go to?

Then there's the option of getting to know other gay guys and starting something from there.

Anyway, to answer your other question, I was a member of my college campus' Gay-Straight Alliance last year. The vice president of the GSA (and later the president) took an interest in me, and he was sending me flirty texts, and ultimately he told me via text that he wanted to go out with me.

Well actually we do have Pittsburgh Pa which isnt too far from us. Pittsburgh is a really good city for being culturally influenced and is a very open minded city, so i bet there would be a lot more opportunities for me, the only problem is how am i suppose to convince my parents to let me take a car all by myself to pittsburgh when i get my license lol,(im 15 btw). Because i didnt come out of the closet yet and i dont want to until im independent , meaning own house, car etc. I definitely want to go to college and if they do have a gay straight alliance maybe i could join that as well, actually that sounds like a really good idea ,And congratulations on your relationship .

About how long would it take you to drive to Pittsburgh? If driving there all by yourself while you're still in high school is out of the question, then I would recommend applying to a university in Pittsburgh.

And I wouldn't say that I'm in a relationship, to be honest. He expressed to me that he was interested in going out with me, but nothing really developed between us. He did drive me home after meetings every now and then, and he and I (along with two other GSA members) went to eat at a restaurant after one meeting, but I wouldn't exactly count that as going out with him. I hope to respark something between us either this summer or this upcoming semester, though.

I would say its about an hour to an hour and 15 minutes depending on how bad the traffic is, and thats a good idea to apply to a university in pittsburgh, ill look into that and see if they offer any of the degrees im interested in and if my grades, which arent the best, would be acceptable to get in. Im sure youll be able to respark things with him, im sure a nice date with just the two of you, so you can bond without the interruptions of others will do just the trick. if you dont mind me asking and you can completely ignore this question if you want, are you a homosexual or heterosexual, which means straight correct? You said he was a vice president of a gay straight alliance which could mean either straight or gay, and i was confused on which he was.

I am gay, and the guy I was talking about (he's the GSA president now) is also gay. Sorry for the confusion, I just figured that you'd already assume these things.

dont worry about it im just AS and you know how we are with social skills lol, hey if im not bugging the crap out of you, would u mind if i asked you one more question, how old were you when you came out of the closet?

My history of being "out" is sort of murky. Before I realized that I was gay, I thought that I was bisexual. I told my mom that I was bi when I was fifteen, and even though she initially didn't seem to have a problem with it, she probably only thought that it was a phase.

The other person I told that I was bi was a former teacher of mine (with whom I was also friends) and even though she's very liberal, she told me that I was too young to make those kinds of decisions about myself (and she was right, because I'm not bi, I'm gay ).

Throughout high school, I let only certain people I trusted with the information know that I was gay (mostly other gay and gay-friendly peers).

I remain unsure if I will ever let my parents know of my sexual orientation (although I did tell my mom that I was a member of my school's Gay-Straight Alliance, to which she very non-chalantly replied "Oh."). The thing is, it's not that I'm ashamed of myself or anything, it's just that I feel it's not really any of my parents' business, and I've always felt uncomfortable discussing matters of sexuality with them.

I thought i was bisexual too until about 8th grade, at that time i had been in and out of relationships with different girls and i could never find any sexual attraction to them, whether we slow danced and kissed, or we went swimming and she wore a tight bikini, nothing. and thats when i realized i was gay. Im not sure if ill ever tell my parents either, right now theres no need to tell them since any gay related issue i need advice on can be helped through forums like this, and quite frankly i dunno how well they will accept me being gay. In fact i havent found anyone to tell but like i said theres no reason to right now. I agree its very uncomfortable to talk about stuff like that with parents and i feel much better talking about stuff like that on here. I really admire the fact that you were brave enough to tell your mom about being bi at age 15, i dunno if i could ever get the courage to do that. i know your actually gay but still that takes alot of courage!

I'm still wondering how you guys met your bf/gf (aside from LGBT centers)

After university I came to Vancouver, where I lived in the gay village, practiced in a gay clinic, went to gay restaurants and was, generally speaking, gay, gay gay, 24/7.

I decided I had to be around some straight people for a while, so I went out and got involved in local theatre--which is where I met my partner (he was the lighting designer on the show I appeared in).

well all my gfs were from my school, and i broke up with them all because i just couldnt find any sexual attraction. sporry it took so long to reply my mom got the sims 3 and she plays on the computer a lot, so i havent had the chance to secretly log on here, since im not out of the closet yet and i dunno if mom checks my browsing history lol. so i usually use in private browsing while on here