Help! I'm being bullied at school!

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And, as I think a good boxing instructor will advise, walk away from a fight if you reasonably can.

And for safety, walk toward a crowd or walk toward other people.

Learning to resolve conflicts with your words is exceedingly more valuable than with your fists. But being someone's punching bag isn't right either. You need to confide in someone you trust, and allow them to assist you. That's the only way it's going to end for good. Chances are you're not going to "win them over", but your best bet is to have someone advocate on your behalf and get them to stop on pain of detention.

Another piece of advice is to find a group of friends, and stick with them. If you're lonely at school, look out for clubs and other events. Especially for someone with Asperger's, an organised setting with a specific theme should be fairly simple to navigate. Beating the blokes up, in my experience, will only serve to isolate you more. Anyone decent will be unnerved around someone who's been known to beat people up. The movie scenes where the triumphant bullied boy is surrounded by all his newly-won-over schoolmates after beating up the bully doesn't normally happen.

But, in the end, time heals all wounds. I was bullied when I was younger, and by the time I graduated (when we were all much more mature), I was quite cordial with everyone, including my former bullies.

Good luck, mate!

Agent-BlueMan, sorry to hear what is happening to you. What you describe sounds like the typical day for me when I was in school. It was really miserable and I feel for you.

I understand that. When I was a kid I was really uncoordinated and clumsy and all of my bullies were much bigger than me and outnumbered me. The few times I tried to fight back I was pathetically unsuccessful and ended up getting bullied even worse. I even took Karate classes for a year and that didn't help. I was just too small and uncoordinated to be able to effectively fend off a gang of bullies all bigger than me and all attacking me at once.

The best "defensive strategy" that I could come up with was too try to avoid situations where bullies could get me alone. Sometimes I was successful and sometimes not.

Just keep in mind that school doesn't last forever and before you know it you will have graduated and won't have to deal with those people anymore.

The only thing I could figure out to do when I got bullied in school was to stay home. Eventually I had to go to family court and got sent away. The school never did anything about the bullying even when they knew about it. I wish I could have been home schooled.