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Ghosthunter
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28 May 2005, 7:19 pm

Hmmm? wrote:

people will say oh she has as my mom say no she
has autism.

Explain why this is?

Hmmmm? wrote:

there a big diff my neroulgist said it like 2 diff countryey
i think poeole with as dont have behaveor proublems
becuse you are better at language

HFA is a language to mind thing. I think therefore
I say. AS is a I say how I percieve, and I think, but
is it relevant? At least this is my perception.

Hmmmm? wrote:

i had a hard time coummiting for a long time .it was
like pulling teeth as my teacher said to get me to say
anything .i still have some language trouvble im
better at getting my thought out on coumpter and
writting .it only bbeen since my 30 i been able to tell
my parents what i new and rember and how i feel
and stuff"

I agree. It took me to be age 29-31 to get out
of my confusion shell. I am still able to express
my thoughts but show hesitant on a physical
level(or beyond my postings) since they are
strung with coloful words and vague(non-grasping)
descriptions that require translation from the
other person. Most people, including AS don't
seem to grasp this. They try, and god-bless them.

Hmmm? wrote:

i still get told i can be diffulyt .but when you cant
explain what you want you losse it to .i still have
melt downs .and can be agrssive if im over the
edfge it kinda of scray sometimes i feel out of
conrtol .they sai=d my social skills when upset or
even not are like 3 to 5 .and now since my 20
was conncerder hf

Read my posts on Quizno's and how I shutdown
when chaos and changes are around me.
My employer has to step-by-step me so I don't
do a overload emotionally. This is well explained
in my trip to Reno. Too many battles externally,
and internally and no way to express them.

I was worse at Villa Pizza, of which had a
compassionate boss, Orion. He would let
go on my tyraids, because he knew when
they pass I am MORE efficent in my thoroughness
in the arranging of things. If I bottle it,
LOOK OUT! I am my worst enemy.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

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28 May 2005, 7:42 pm

Danlo wrote:

I, too, am diagnosed HFA. Welcome to WrongPlanet.
Often, when I am talking, I will also lose track of what
has just being said because I am often concentrating
on those rules that haven't become parts of my
subconscious routines.

Danlo wrote:

• eye contact for appropriate intervals
• body postures
• facial expressions.

"They mean nothing to me, but that's not the point."

Danlo wrote:

I will remember what they say but am unable to trust
my memory to have remembered correctly, and end up
waiting for them to repeat. This still happens with
almost everyone.

I agree, I often repeat myself(past-tense, and slightly
in the present-tense) so I AM UNDERSTOOD.

Danlo wrote:

My routines ensure I never go off-topic, and its a
sure-fire method. Take a word, usually noun or
adjective, and make a question out of it. Never
goes wrong.

I use this by not saying anything, and letting the
events ride their course, then interject my
colorful worded postition and try not to
repeat myself(HFA self-control).

Danlo wrote:

Regarding dinner conversations, I just sit and
look at some item of interest. My other senses
just fade into the background, you still hear
the noise but it doesn't make it to conscious
awareness.

These are the signs of emotional-overwhelming
I get when dealing with customers, or too many
people.

Danlo wrote:

My hearing never fails to pick up my name, though,
and I can then snap out and listen to what is being
said.

In this zoning space that was mentioned numerous
times at Quizno's, I do listen within it, then
evaluate the response needed.

Hmmmm?
How often does this happen to you?

Danlo wrote:

I agree with the opinion that AS is different to HFA.
But the question is: is the communication deficit
like a co-morbid condition, or is it a separate
developmental path.

I would say a separate developmental path.
This is of course my opinion. Hmmmm?

Danlo wrote:

I don't think that behavior problems are in any way
connected to which form one has, but is a combination
of many factors, like:

• upbringing
• environment
• personality
• sensitivities
and ect.....!

Danlo wrote:

When I meltdown rather than zone out, my strength
goes through the roof, and I sometimes lose the
memory of that time.

I agree! Think Villa Pizza, not so much of this
has happened in Quizno's, I try to maintain self-
control.

Danlo wrote:

I'm told I go wild and lash out at everyone near me,
but its by no means conscious. Anyways, again,
welcome! Too few HFA's around.

And I say thankyou for elaborating my thoughts.
I am not a tree standing alone, I do need others
(HFA's) input to illustrate some of my points with
other opinions so we can be better grasped here
at WrongPlanet.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

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28 May 2005, 7:49 pm

Pyraxis wrote:

pyraxis
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 6:01 am
Post subject: Re: Hmmmm?
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Ghosthunter wrote:
What is interesting about the HFA story of bridery
and the "please get out from under the desk"
example is that it is a distinctive difference
between AS and HFA in my opinion.

The AS'ers on this site are quiet and not too
expressive, and I wouldn't see them do that.
I could see myself doing it NATURALLY, not
provoked, nor suggested. The AS person would
perhaps have to be provoked or it is suggested
upon them to go under the desk.

From Pyraxis......
I think it has more to do with how free someone
feels about being themselves, or the severity of
overload. I would never have dared crawl under
a desk in public, as much as I might have wanted
to, because that wouldn't look normal. But I was
lucky that things never got bad enough for me
that I couldn't pass for normal. Besides, I was too
scared of people's reactions and attention. But in
private, at home, I used to crawl under my desk
sometimes after I came home from school.

Thanks for responding, our HFA-like sister.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter, your HFA brother.

autti34
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28 May 2005, 8:00 pm

even when i think im being ok people can tell something is diff and if they know anything about autism .yhey know i have it right away .i didnt understand this for awhile .and i still dont know how they can tell .i use to go nuts when my mom would have to tell someone about my disabilyt but i find out telling them they are nicer to me and dont look at me like i have 2 heads

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28 May 2005, 9:56 pm

autti34 wrote:

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Joined: May 02, 2005
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 6:50 am
Post subject: hfa
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well when i would cralw under the desk or
throw myself on the floor like other autisc kids
do

I don't remeber my childhood much. I know
I hide alot, and this is why when I was
homeless many times I find dark secluded
spots and away from the human race.

auttie34 wrote:

.i wasnt awear of how it look

There is a interesting thread on
"Clothing and such" in the data
base that discusses this. I think
BeeBee would remember where
it was?

auttie34 wrote:

.i didnt know enough to think that way people
were more like pobhjects to me every person
had there place school was teacher and parents
home .and stuff

How were they projects? Hmmmm?

auttie34 wrote:

i still dont get emarde or notice
anyone looking at me if im stimmy or upset
i dont care what stranger think anyways

I agree. I will stretch after long
periods of online time and don't
care what you think(the observers).
The NT's are insensitive to me anyways
and I am doing it for my betterment,
not convince a ignorant goat that it
is ignorant.

auttie34 wrote:

in school i never thought oh i get in trouble i
just would be told not toi do that we got rewad
for being good

In speech therapy I remember comics as
rewards. My favorites at that age
were Captain America #101(#1 of series)
©69', and Hulk #102(#1 of series) ©69'.

auttie34 wrote:

.so i try .but sometimes i was
just to frustred to be good uslay i got
cookie or taken out for ice cream or would earn
stickers i still love sticker in school i do
anything to earn stickers

Again I remember the therapists stickers,
but that is when you are Really young. It
was the comics that Oohhhhh'd me.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

autti34
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29 May 2005, 9:47 am

i still like getting reward even in hs and i still get upset if someone get upset with me if i did the wrong .thing .like i thought i was going to cry cuse i drop the rest of my drink by accendt on the floor at hair salon .and everyone said it ok .i cry when im frustred or up set ..i have to be remind to use my words when i get graby with my hands

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