Just went to see a flat today in the local area...

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Your mum just sounds as if she's a little more reserved than maybe you are.

The way I'd see it is that I'm trying to put the good points and the bad points across and then give my verdict at the end of it. If I see a sticking point I mention it and if it's an obvious stumbling block, I will reject it there and then. Apparently that's a bit impolite or something. I said something along the lines of stressing that the last one was a very nice spacious property but the stairs are a problem for me, therefore I will have to refuse this one.

I'm trying not to waste anyone's time and be straightforward here.

Last edited by Tequila on 14 Apr 2012, 12:15 pm, edited 1 time in total.

She's usually not at all! She's usually far more assertive than I. Which is why I find it weird in this instance.

Mums do get a bad press sometimes, especially when there's a battle of wills. I wish you all the best with your flat hunting Tequila and ultimately it is up to you.

We've had a wee talk about this - I'm not sure it's done an awful lot of good, mind. My doctor actually even told her, very gently, that she might be slightly overprotective the other day.

I know that it's up to me. I definitely miss many of the details when looking at a flat, but the important ones I tend not to miss. Which is quite odd really, as usually it's the other way round.

I'm the same with my daughter, she's 20 and I do find myself having to pull back from doing everything for her because I know that she's more than capable of fending for herself. I think it must be just a Mother thing

We're not monsters really

I think it's good you're being straight up and honest and you know what you want. Maybe if you don't already have a checklist of things you need, want, and don't want in a place so you can quantitatively show suitability to yourself and your family. To try and give insight into your mother's point estate agents might be more likely to give you the lease on a flat if you seem all happy and keen and like you really want a flat, even if you don't want this one you may get the same agent at one you do want and it is possible they may remember you. If you seem indifferent or negative and someone else seems very keen the other person is more likely to get the lease unless there are major employment differences or something. Supposedly excited happy people are more likely to pay their rent or something