Sibling troubles

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Being on the spectrum, I wanted to know how many of you have problems with siblings acting like their are superior to you because you have a "label?" Do they talk to like you're a child? Do they boss you around?

I have two sisters and one of them has always seemed to get privileges to do certain things in the house with special objects. When I would try, she would always trying to remind me that the it is not a toy and to be careful.

My sister also seems to boss me around when and where I should call someone.

Then it is like I am not allowed to have feelings or take care of myself. Instead, I am constantly being accused of victimizing myself.

How many of you have siblings who treat you like that?

My siblings just say they think I'm strange.

Lol. Mine just thinks she can manipulate me. The Youngest one is more mature and has common sense

My older brother was allowed to disipline me when younger, To me it seemed I would get beat up whenever he was in a bad mood, but what do I know. His behavior was approved.

When I was fifty he told me not to visit with my daughter anymore because we embarrassed him in front of his friends. I suspect he is upset he cannot hit me, he sure hits his own children, something I have never done.

I still have trouble with this.

My younger sister who is very controlling and manipulative is the one who I have had problems with. Actually, I think she's pathological as well. She has a lot of the characteristics and I have witnessed them about her for years.


I did end up talking to my dad for a bit back in Nov after something happened but I did not talk to my sister on the phone after what had happened. I did not talk to my mom because I felt my sister, mother and I always bring the worst out in each other. They think I am just bitter and resentful but I know that is not the truth.

*just for the record, both of my siblings are younger*

For various reasons, my sister was often treated as if she were the oldest child, and sometimes it seemed like she thought that gave her license to try to boss me around and talk down to me. (this was especially bad during the time we were in our teens through early 20s) She also would, when talking to people about my issues, made it sound like I was more "special needs" than I actually was, and apparently gave several family members the impression that I should try to get into a group home.

With my brother, every so often he will say something which kind of sounds like he's talking down to me, but I don't think it's intentional.

My siblings exploited my autistic naivete all my life until I got wiser. Then they treated me even worse. I cut all contact with them over 10 years ago. I desperately miss having family, but not people like them.

I have recently cut all ties with my siblings, except for legal matters.

Just one example of why:
My Mom passed away a few months ago, they never called or visited, I was her sole caregiver for years, and yet my sister called the Funeral Home and had my Mom's ashes sent to her in another state, without my knowledge or consent, so that she could bury them at her convenience in the family plot.

I may have Asperger's, but I would bet money that my sister is a certifiable Psychopath.

Tedmart, we have similar stories.

I don't really have close relationships with my siblings, but one looks to me for advice sometimes. I was out of my parents' house when they were young, and I don't live close.