Other's, perhaps perceived, lack of interest in your diag

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I think everybody is struggling with their own life in one way or another. Their own concerns must come first.

When I first discovered that I might have Aspergers, I did reasearch at work and sent my boss some papers which described me pretty well. He imediately informed me that one of his nephews was recently diagnosed with Aspergers.

I told my imediate fellow workers. One of the girl's husband is a teacher, so she knew about Aspergers because of the large volume of pamphlits he brings home, apparently public schools have a large number of kids and a wide array of special needs. She sends me articles and confrences which do the rounds in school circles.

My mother was in complete disbelief. I've sent her articles and books, hoping she'll take an interest and to at least understand me some. She doesn't seem to want to know about it. But then, she's never realy been "in" my life.

My dad read my articles and stated that he probably has it. After much thinking about it, he shows some attributes, but I don't believe he's on the spectrum. He's just too social.



What was I saying? Oh yea, I think everybody is lost in their own world and their own problems. Taking on somebody elses problems is just a bridge too far.

They likely view it as impolite to question you too much about it too, even though that is exactly what you want. They'll tread carefuly around the subject in fear of offence.

It was for me as well. The process of learning about Aspergers (beginning in December 2012) all the way through diagnosis (just last month) has helped me better understand who I am and why I do what I do.

It’s uncanny that, in every situation, I am now able to understand how Aspergers impacts what I do, how I think and what I say.



I 100% agree. So far, I mentioned it to my parents, my sister and one friend. The response was, “Oh”. And, then the conversation changed to something else. It was never mentioned again.

I suppose, from their perspective, I am simply who I am. This new label doesn’t change how they think of me.

With that being said, I do wish that the few people that were close to me (family and the few friends I have) were more interested in Aspergers and asked me questions about it. As it would allow them to learn more about me.

In some ways, the fact that they don’t, further re-emphasizes the fact that my relationship with these people is at a very superficial level. Which, I suppose is precisely what’s to be expected.