I need help with bullies at school

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It's been over 5 years since I left school. I was bullied from the age of 6-15 (and out of school too but that's another matter) and it has left me severely scarred and I often suffer from post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) which makes me have flashbacks.

It must be confusing for you because there has been so many different people giving so much different advice, but all I can tell you is from my personal experience.

It sounds like the bullying you are getting is relatively mild (not saying that makes it better or anything...), so you need to stop it before it gets worse. NEVER fight the bully or even use self defence. I had a friend who used his karate skills on a bully and HE got in trouble and the bully didn't. Besides, it will go on your permanent record and you don't want future employers to see that. A good piece of advice is to write down exactly what is happening whenever you have some alone time. If they call you names, write it down in a diary or on a computer. When you have plenty of evidence written down tell your teacher. If your teacher doesn't help, tell someone like the principle.

The main piece of advice I can give you is never give up. No matter how bad the bullying gets, don't just accept that this is how your life must be. I did that, left school aged 15 and now I have no qualifications and I am struggling to find a home and a job. I always regret leaving school and as I said, I still suffer at the hands of the bullies even though I am no longer at school or even in the same county. Good luck and I hope you can sort this out.

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These days you have to just stand up to them and if your scared don't show it.

Stay around adults or the library as often as you can go.

Bullies rarely do things right in front of the adults so if they will protect you stay with them.

Heck in the library its quite and they have comfortable furniture and if you are ever messed with because its so quite you can talk loudly and attract attention to the bully and be more protected.

Don't be alone and if you need to then just get away from the situation.

If they are attacking you then you have the right to defend yourself enough to get away and tell someone. If your school has cameras you can use that to your advantage.
If your attacked just remember the place you were then the staff can catch it on there.


Don't start any fights with them. That will make you the antagonist and you will be the one in trouble for starting it. Don't think running away will make you a coward it will make you the bigger person for it.

I chose "no" because I've never been bullied in the school. But I've a kid with Asperger that has always been the target of bullies. Even in high school, it became so bad and physical that for her safety, she had to stay and study at home for 2 years.

Well, ignore them. They're not worth space in your brain. I know it's hard, but don't appear to be always tense or depressed, just appear light-hearted with a "f**k you" smirk on your face whenever they say anything mean (but check it in the mirror, people might laugh at it too). Then, just laugh along to whatever they say, tell your own comebacks (don't overthink them), and people will start to ask themselves "what am I doing"? and back off. Also, one thing I have learned is that whenever I say things awkward (and I do a lot), I laugh at myself. This makes it virtually impossible for them to laugh at you when you say something "wrong". Stick with some friends too, if you want to. If it's physical bullying, learn self defense, and tell a teacher or parent, or at least a friend, immediately.

Also, if you think you might have a meltdown, go to the bathroom so they can't hold it against you.

I haven't been bullied at school, but I've been cyberbullied a few times, so I know how you feel... technically.

This is what I did to deal with bullies who were much bigger and older than me:
Start fighting back. They hit, you hit back. Harder. Even if you get your ass kicked, don't ever back down. Ever. And start lifting weights and cramming fown as much high protein food as possible. Lift heavy wieghts, push through the pain. I did just that. People rarely bother me anymore.

I was bullied quite a lot in school and mostly for being autistic, but nobody knew I was an aspie at the time, not even me or my mom. I figured out how to fix the bullying though.

Please do tell a teacher what is going on, but sometimes, teachers can't always help or the schools just suck and they don't even try. What I did was pretend they don't exist, ignore them completely, as much as possible. They want a reaction and when you deprive them of that, they give up eventually. I've learned they're only bullying you because they are insecure about themselves, what they say you are isn't true. If they call you stupid, they probably think they're stupid, you really aren't stupid. I hope this helps!

Hello, I'm so sorry you're being bullied, just remember they've most likely got problems of their own and they're taking it out on you which is wrong. I'm not an expert, but I would recommend talking to your parents, or a trusted teacher at school! I hope you feel better soon and even though it's hard try not to let them make you feel small because you're not!