How do you deal with loneliness?

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^^^very good point about being the loneliest in a crowd.

I take a hot shower. For some reason the calmingness of it makes me feel not as lonely.

Feeling clean does invigorate people.

Diversion

Gorging (eating)

Meditation

Diversion

Gorging

Drinking

if only my body would tolerate intoxicants, i'd be swimmin' in it

This. I pretty much have not had a single lonely day since I gave up on expecting reciprocity from people and started focusing on animals and plants and reading and caretaking my home... don't misunderstand, I'm casual-friendly enough to pass, and I know my neighbors, I just don't ever expect anything from them or anyone else. If I need help, I know I'll have to hire it. That's just how it is, for whatever reason. And it works well enough.

am lucky enough to have a bro in law who helps me now and then. but in terms of doing things, it is always by myself, all my life I've never been able to get people to wanna to stuff with me.

Oh my god. Two days ago I was so painfully lonely I couldn't concentrate on my work.

There are so many thoughts in my head right now, most of them aren't connected. I'll share them one by one and hopefully a common theme will emerge:

1. I am lonely for true and deep bonds.

2. I shun people who I don't deeply connect with, usually.

3. These days I am in therapy for autism to help me with social skills among other things. I have to interact with two "peer mentors" a week who are very social. I also have to say yes when people invite me to study with them.

4. When I am around people I don't deeply connect with I feel overwhelmed, like I want to retreat and I still feel lonely. It's a cluster f**k of emotions.

5. My therapist told me that if I learn the normal way of developing bond with people eventually I will get to that deep level with the right people, but that I need to go back to basics and start with learning not to infodump. I trust her.

6. So I guess the way I deal with loneliness is to surrender to the process of autism therapy with faith that it will lead me to be less lonely.

7. In the meantime I get up early, exercise daily and go to bed early. It's when I am up past 9:30 PM that I get really lonely, so I try to avoid that period.

Slowly

Wrongly