Single again, and ready for ridicule

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My girlfriend dumped me a few days ago for another guy citing that I was so nice and caring to her that she only saw me as a friend.

So I've come back here and ready to take the ridicule and shame the women give every other single guy here because I was stupid enough to think I had a chance to break free, to be different, to be a somebody and accepted in society's eyes. Go ahead, tell me it was my fault. I should've known better than to be me. Than to think that I had a chance, or to think that I was any different from any other aspie and had any chance at even a normal life, let alone an extraordinary one.

Call me a masochist, I dunno. I've done enough pain and punishment to myself and maybe I need to be reminded enough to just stop trying to be me because who I am right now is a disgusting piece of s**t and I need to change myself or end it.

Oh, and three days later, blood tests came back and I'm positive for colon cancer. Even better. So now I have to get a colonoscopy in a month or two to confirm it is that or if it's just really bad Crohn's (depending on who I talk to, chances are either 50/50 it is, or only like a 5-10% chance it is). If it is cancer, and I thought it was bad enough trying to be loved and accepted being me, it would be impossible if I ended up having to get a stoma.

I don't know what to say. I was once rejected by a young lady after a single date because she thought I was too nice and kind.
Don't give up. There are other women and you only need to find one...

I'm sorry this is what has brought you back. Hopefully the cancer results come back negative.

Dont give up. I honestly dont know how to get anyone either. But I keep an open mind that I might meet someone. Just keep an open mind. Dont give up.

I can't imagine making fun of someone who just got dumped. I'm so sorry that happened to you. It's scary to trust and then get smashed down again. And then getting a cancer scare. What a double whammy. I hope you find some support here.

And there is no shame or ridecule in being dumped. Put it this way. You escaped there. If you had married her and then she parted with you it would be many times worse.
Now I think sometimes we can take dating too seriously. Think of dating as the way in which you can get to really know if you and your partner are meant for each other. Most people date many times before they find the right person. The lucky few marry the first person they date, but this is rare.
Here in the UK we have driving tests and some people pass first time. Others may pass after ten attempts. There is no limit to how many attempts it takes before you are deemed safe and ready to drive and are given a pass. The examiner just wants to make sure the candidates are safe and ready to drive on their own.
Now back to dating. Some people may date many, many girls or guys before they find the right one to marry.
So relax... Then when you have recovered and are ready go out and look to find yourself another date. Give yourself time to heal first.
So deep breaths. All is ok.

You cannot date without getting dumped sometimes