Emotionally communicative

Post Reply New Topic

I think this may be unusual for a person on the autism spectrum, but does anyone besides me feel they need to tell someone what you're feeling?

I've always read that Aspies have trouble with expressing their feelings or don't get a relief out of communicating their feelings to other people or something, but I'm quite the opposite.

For example, if I am waiting for a bus that's late, I start getting agitated. But when you're on your own you can't express your feelings without drawing attention to yourself, and all this frustration starts to crack my mask. So I have to phone someone (my mother or my boyfriend or a friend, etc), just to let it out. I tell them that my bus is late and that I'm feeling anxious - and it always helps. If it's not the right time to call somebody, I sometimes go on to Facebook and update my status to a polite rant about what's frustrating me. Communicating the anxiety/frustration to another person always helps me calm down and deal with it.

Am I the only Aspie that does this? I just cannot keep my feelings bottled up. Even during meltdowns I feel I need to be around people or interacting with people to cope.

That's me. I am very feeling and very expressive. As opposed to my AS-like BFF. So while I am ALWAYS feeling, she is not. We're quite a pair. I am always joyful, or agitated or upset, or sad or mad... and she isn't at all (she has never felt joy). Typical AS extremes. I forget that others don't FEEL like I do. I asked an AS support group member if his tears were happy or sad tears and he was like ---- uh, neither, it's stress relief. And I was like, oh yeah: I forget b/c I'm ALWAYS happy and sad --- all the time, all at the same time. In fact, I don't "relax", I am always feeling something and I want to share it... I am extroverted and love people (although I don't relate to NTs well). The other day I started a conversation with a stranger and to my pleasant surprise he continued it and ----sigh---- a kindred soul. I wanted to ask him for his phone number!! !! ! (not for romance, for friendship)

No, I do that too. Having to let out what annoys me I mean. Sometimes it's other person, like a coworker (when it's something small and something that's appropriate to talk about at work), a family member, a friend, sometimes the "scale from 10 to -10, how are you feeling now" -topic here on WP, or the "what are you annoyed about right now?" -topic also on this forum.

Also, since we're on the subject, I'd like to tell you that the light bulb in my kitchen just went out while I was starting to wash the dishes. Not fun.

I don't know if my husband is Aspie, BAP or just a nerdy NT with poor social skills but he does the same all the time - he phones me whenever he feels some emotion he needs to release.

I don’t get where that’s coming from because I too like to share my feelings. Everyone here with autism doesn’t seem to have a problem with it either.

I don’t get where that’s coming from because I too like to share my feelings. Everyone here with autism doesn’t seem to have a problem with it either.

I'm expressive but not very communicative.

Unwillingly emotionally expressive, despite wanting to communicate with it. I would rather have this passive face and plainly say what I feel -- no, in my case it's the opposite.
I'd cry in inappropriate and inconvenient times like it or not, and not as it should merely because I refuse -- little to do with 'odd reactions', more to do with 'crappy emotional control and regulation'.


I'm not entirely sure where most of my unwillingness to talk about my feelings came from.
My personal conclusion so far, is pride. But where did this 'pride' came from exactly?

This is also why I have a lot of unresolved issues somewhere...

Gained Number Post Count (1).
Lose Time (n).

Lose more time here - Updates at least once a week.