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I look ret*d and not like a normal person. I avoid going out of home. When i was going to university i couldnt make any friends. Nobody talked to me to be friend with me. My autism not only affects brain. My face suggests that there is something wrong with me. I doubt if taking antidepressants for too long caused this.

Okay sorry .. and guess you understand , idea of homeostasis ?
Everything . Especially living things , seek their own way .. ( of balance).
If a small weed gets a rock dropped on it , it will give durn good try to grow out from understand that rock, possibly not as same as flower without the rock
.but still is a flower life form. So i pretty much quit my antidepressants . And took vitamins and good supplements instead , paid extra for quality. But like
Everything else , i studied it. Your aspie brain is /will always seek equilibrium.
To just be. Socialising maybe nice , but all things are not for all people.
Isolstion maybe bad if forced on you , but if you decide to prefer , your own company to others . You might accidentally find yourself smiling sometimes .
If your not seeking company of others . Cause you are socially programmed to be that way . Self satisfaction becomes easier. Easier said than done unless you have lived it. So little bits of interaction show up, along the way . Not expected , they can just pop up outta no where . Simple smile goes along way.
Both ways ..,! IF YOU SEE A SMILE .. hard not to return one if you do not expect it. You csn pracyice mirroring people btw way . Smiles are eady to do with slittle practice .. then if you can smile , be alittle silly , try out your own isolated social experiments . When entering any doorway anywhere , just smile. Make it your own rule .. nevermind, if its not returned , just do it. Get your face practiced at it. Wether you feel to smile or not ,, doorway equals face exercise . "Smile" . Forget the people. Just face exercise.
If you see a frog smile , hard not to be curious , but that moment , could possibly bring you a smile.
Have best holidays you can... with just YOU . Or with any other smiles you see .

I didn't make any friends when I graduated college. Is there other things that make you not like your appearance, do you find it hard to manage stuff?

My deepest sympathies.

Loneliness is the worst thing in the universe.

At least venting online to people helps.

Could you send us a picture of yourself?

I have found, often, that people who think they are not good-looking actually ARE at least okay-looking.

Sometimes society puts too much emphasis on appearance

Different people find different things attractive

However, other things matter, not just appearance

Superficial and materialistic

Often when someone has significant enough autism it shows. It is more a matter of facial expression rather than looks per se. A person can be attractive and yet "look ret*d".

It's the whole body language thing that can be off to where a person might as well be holding a sign that says "there is something wrong with me".

This has a twofold effect for me. Strangers often stay clear of me. But with places I go to for food on a regular basis, the person at the counter is very friendly towrds me.

So it's like a mix of being off putting to some and endearing to others.

I'm not obviously autistic but I have it the same, especially with small children. A lot seem to fear me and another lot seem to love me. Adults probably too, though they are usually better at masking or rationalising it.

Same same..... can relate . My ongoing efforts to mirror things i see ,can now be somewhat automatic . But it does look abit to much like , i am trying.
One person seems to find it endearing. I think , but only cause , he talks to me .
When he sees me. Mostly find it better to be quiet sometimes . (ALOT).
The place seems overall safe these days.

YUP

I always felt like I was alone in the universe though my reasoning is a bit different from yours. I can't even give proper advice to it because most of those things I have tried to no avail and it always fails in the end. The only thing I can say is maybe try to find friends online on forums, or games or something. So far that is the only thing that works for me even though I have fallen out with online friends as well.