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He (letsGoBlues) may not realize the "Mature Asperger's Related issues" forum exists. If he is aware of it, and didn't want to post what was on his mind there, then that's another issue.

I suppose not everyone acquaints themselves to forums on a message board, intially (at joining) and continually as they continue to be an active member of the site.

Last edited by Tom_FL_MA on 30 Oct 2004, 4:46 am, edited 2 times in total.

Yes - that's important, maybe he doesn't realise these are more adult issues. My son will talk about the most inappropriate things, and I have to sit him down and explain that they are not what he should talk about with his teacher, or other grown ups.Incidentally, I was raving about the strip club thing, saying it could mean something like a cat of nine tails - club with strips on it, if you didn't know any better, and my son carefully explained to me what a strip club is. Now, I have never told him about them, but he obviously knows. It's inescapable - this is the world we live in, and kids will learn stuff we don't particularly want them to know through school, television etc. Wouldn't we better sitting them down and explaining before things got nasty?

This was really the main source of my outrage as a parent, however I remonstrated with the individual when he reposted some of the deleted topic and he apologised. I agree with vetivert - this person should be viewed as in need of therapy/education as his attitude to women is both dangerous and offensive to a number of members (and certainly won't help him to find a girlfriend), but I feel that the mature forum is the best place to do this. If we don't attempt to convince him that his behaviour is likely to get him in trouble (stalking charges or worse) and to seek professional help, he is on a road which can only lead him into territory where he doesn't wish to go, but we are not in a position to directly affect his behaviour as he doesn't appear to be listening. This saddens me and I sympathise with the lad, but openly sexist comments should be challenged as most people in wider society will take offence at him for one thing. I am also not a prude, but I wouldn't want my (metaphorical) 12 year old daughter (or actual 6 year old daughter and 8 year old son) to think that most men view women as 'animatronic blow up dolls'.

Thanks for your comments everyone! Hope this was fairly coherent

Dunc

I agree with what has been said, so far. This letgoblues person needs to reassess his views on women, and hopefully, we can help him to learn, rather than by insulting him, by explaining to him why what he's said is wrong and correcting him. Punishment only teaches one how to avoid punishment, reinforcement teaches one what behaviors are right and what behaviors are wrong, and how to correct them.

I am curious to hear what letgoblues has to say about this subject. He hasn't responded to this thread yet. Does he know that it exists?

I agree. I'll let him know (nicely, of course).

I did not post any cuss words, or anything sexual. Also Maybe Canada is different, but here in America teens talk about sex all the time. I would not let a 10 yr old use a message board.

Thing is there are a lot of Aspergers/Autistic parents that do let their young children come here for support and you're being ignorant to those that are much younger than you and don't understand not all males are like you. Some actually respect women.

Also I dont act like that towards women in real life. Im too nervous to ever ask someone out on a date. The pill I take now seems to be helping me be more calmer.

Relieved to know you don't act like that towards women in real life lets. It would help you a lot if you can calm down about the subject - try making friends with women - if you listen to what they say you will probably pick up on what different women like, what they are interested in, etc. This will allow you to find something in common, and give you more of a chance with someone - by concentrating on non romantic conversation with women you know, this may help your nervousness.




This is a family site, lets - but you can discuss sex related topics on the mature issues forum. As a support site/community I think Alex and Dan intended WP to be inclusive so on the main boards posts should really be appropriate for all ages. While you didn't use bad language or discuss sex explicitly, it is disrespectful to refer to women repeatedly as 'hot chicks' and this seems to be what has offended people mainly. Listen to what people suggest on the mature and romantic forums and you may have less trouble.

thanks for your comments lets - hope this is useful...

dunc