How did you cope with bullying at school?

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I agree. There's some great advice here.

I'm sorry for all the people who've been bullied.

Additional agreement on the good advice.

@LoraAdora
I’ve had a couple of lines of thought inspired by posts above: one starts abstract and then gets specific, the other is inference and then suggestion...

Firstly I was thinking about self-image, how humans in general seem to have a less than fully accurate sense of self, and how this can be additionally complicated by both puberty and bullying: the first of which introduces changes to both physique and cognition beyond our control and the second hands us a false, warped and negative self image for easy consumption at a time when we are naturally vulnerable and wanting answers to the question of who we are.

That’s all abstract: the specific is you’ve shown yourself to be both compassionate and sympathetic in the bits of chat we’ve had here, and mentioned the idea of maybe a caring profession in the future.
The point being after all that you’ve been through you still have care for others as an expressed personality trait: I suspect on this basis that you’re a stronger person than you’re aware of, definitely stronger than I was at your age: for I (temporarily) lost the ability to care about anyone else under similar pressure, whereas you still have it.

To inferences: from the a few things you appear to have got instantly in our chats, and the terminology you use to talk about schools I’m working on the hypothesis that you’re British, and coming up to sitting your GCSEs this summer.

if I’m wrong I’m going to look very stupid: won’t be the first or last time though so what the hey

Have you considered switching to a dedicated sixth form college in your county to finish your mandatory schooling?
Bit speculative, but if you have a fresh start next academic year with a new group of people who have made a positive choice as to their education, you may find it a slightly more mature, less aggressive place to be than sticking with your general high school. Transitions to new environments aren’t easy: but it might be worth it thinking over.

Well: that’s it! Hope there’s a nugget or two of value amidst the verbiage

I reacted badly to the bullying & my bad reacting caused things to be a lot worse for me. Fighting back &/or telling on the bullies just made things more difficult for me & got me into more trouble. I actually think crying over anything would of worked better for me cuz then some might of felt sorry for me or would of realized that there were MAJOR problems going on that were beyond my control. Bullying was a hell I was forced to endure until I switched to a better skewl.

Well, it's a long time ago for me (late 60's and the 70's) but I just avoided any kind of static. That time, faculty and guidance didn't even give the topic the time of day. I get bullied right up to today and I'm already 59. Bullying goes with narcissism and other undesirable human traits. There's ALWAYS some a**hole ready to pick...whether it be racial, about my weight, my hobbies, whatever. I don't talk to many people and now "prefer" to be alone.

by eating lunch in a stairwell alone, smashing my head against desks and walls, skipping class to hang out on the bleachers by the tennis courts alone, distracting myself with books and drawing, getting horribly attached to the one girl who i thought liked me and was a true friend (but was really just manipulative and using me the whole time...but it took YEARS to find that out)

people nowadays are generally nice to me at best, ignore me at worst. thank god