Neurotypicals who think they're better than you

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02 Oct 2020, 9:53 pm

Apparently marriage and parenthood puts people in a category that is above mine.

Since I'm not married and because I didn't have an illustrious career, I'm not worthy of normal communication methods and normal methods of socialization.

Because I'm not making lots of money and I'm not mortgaging a house, I'm not worth the time of people who are able to handle those things.

Because I don't send my children to private school or boarding school, I'm made to feel like I'm just not good enough.

I'm in "another category," despite my education level and appearance. I'm treated like I'm six, when really, men with not much character parade around and get respect that was never truly earned. They're succeeding because their parents helped them.

I like self-made people who understand the value of hard work. Spoiled children grow up to be the worst kind of people.

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02 Oct 2020, 9:55 pm

How long have you felt this anger?

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03 Oct 2020, 11:17 am

DesertWoman wrote:

Apparently marriage and parenthood puts people in a category that is above mine. Since I'm not married and because I didn't have an illustrious career, I'm not worthy of normal communication methods and normal methods of socialization. Because I'm not making lots of money and I'm not mortgaging a house, I'm not worth the time of people who are able to handle those things. Because I don't send my children to private school or boarding school, I'm made to feel like I'm just not good enough. I'm in "another category," despite my education level and appearance. I'm treated like I'm six, when really, men with not much character parade around and get respect that was never truly earned. They're succeeding because their parents helped them. I like self-made people who understand the value of hard work. Spoiled children grow up to be the worst kind of people.

None of this has anything specifically to do with the division between NTs and the rest of us. It's just how people are. I stay away from people who take the "Better Than Thee" stance against anyone. Even those who strut and crow over a new baby are best avoided, in my honest opinion.

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04 Oct 2020, 7:03 am

Desert Woman and Fnord are both right.

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08 Oct 2020, 12:54 am

I've been angry for a long time. Having ASD is humiliating. It's not like I choose to misread people and situations. It just happens. And the more it happens, the more it erodes at your self worth.

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08 Oct 2020, 1:07 am

Fnord wrote:

Even those who strut and crow over a new baby

When who have babies people talk about their 'new baby' I always wonder what they did with the old one.
I have occasionally asked people what happened to their old baby that caused them to have to get a new one.
The looks on their faces are sometimes quite entertaining.
To me, saying "new baby" is like saying "the melted ice cubes were no longer frozen."
Aren't babies by definition new?

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08 Oct 2020, 1:10 am

:lol:

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08 Oct 2020, 1:57 am

DesertWoman wrote:

I've been angry for a long time. Having ASD is humiliating. It's not like I choose to misread people and situations. It just happens. And the more it happens, the more it erodes at your self worth.

Yep, that is crap.
I try to limit exposure to other people.
People = problems/emotional-pain.
Tony Attwood made that point.

Do they know you are on the spectrum?

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14 Oct 2020, 12:56 am

Fnord wrote:

DesertWoman wrote:

Apparently marriage and parenthood puts people in a category that is above mine. Since I'm not married and because I didn't have an illustrious career, I'm not worthy of normal communication methods and normal methods of socialization. Because I'm not making lots of money and I'm not mortgaging a house, I'm not worth the time of people who are able to handle those things. Because I don't send my children to private school or boarding school, I'm made to feel like I'm just not good enough. I'm in "another category," despite my education level and appearance. I'm treated like I'm six, when really, men with not much character parade around and get respect that was never truly earned. They're succeeding because their parents helped them. I like self-made people who understand the value of hard work. Spoiled children grow up to be the worst kind of people.

Agreed. ND's and NT's come in all "shapes and sizes." I usually find I am drawn to those who suit my moral compass and values and focus on them. I don't need to negate or judge those who are different, avoiding as much contact with them as possible is sufficient for me .

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14 Oct 2020, 1:17 am

Have to agree with the OP...NTs can be (and are often) self-entitled.

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14 Oct 2020, 4:25 am

kitesandtrainsandcats wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Even those who strut and crow over a new baby

Newborn I suppose.

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14 Oct 2020, 6:50 am

Definitely newborns under a month old.

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14 Oct 2020, 7:29 am

I usually try to avoid people like that of I can. Their company or attention isn't worth much in my eyes anyway. If I can ever get back at them I usually do because we all know revenge is a dish best served cold. There was a family I knew who use to look down on everyone and cause drama, had no respect for privacy and gossiped about everyone, regardless of how vulnerable.

One day I had news the father was arrested, jailed and the family shattered into pieces and deservedly so for how they treated people, especially people with poor social skills. The woman complained she was about to lose her house without her husbands paycheck and by that time I had a small portfolio of houses and one that was empty. By god did I laugh at her right to her face.

Even the ones who think they're top banana can take a massive fall from grace, just remember that.

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14 Oct 2020, 7:35 am

OP,
Are you still alive? :scratch: :mrgreen:

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