This dump makes me miserable

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Yes. If you meet one autie, you meet on autie.

But the thing is, we *do* have similarities, in certain areas, or we couldn't have been diagnosed.
Most auties have a social disability, as an example.

Agreed.
I am frequently surprised by members’ posts wherein they reference their husbands/wives, kids; I do think of most Aspies/Auties as living alone.
I am truly happy for those of us who have been able to form, and live with, a family.
Some of us will never experience that.

I know how you feel. I know I live with a partner myself, I still get baffled at how some (younger) Aspies manage to have a group of NT friends of the same age and do normal things with them like partying, going to the movies, and even going on holiday together. I've never managed to have that, I was a lonely teen and it does baffle me how other teens/young adults with autism spectrum disorders manage to be accepted by their NT peers.

I agree, and identify with your observation.
I believe that it isn’t US being anti- social or not wanting friends, but Them not accepting us as we are, with our quirks and limitations.
I could be wrong; I know I am happy for those of us who have a number of real friends.

Under the medical model, yeah.

Under the social model it's debatable. I don't feel hindered by my autism in my daily life. It's bad for my social anxiety/mental health in general to tell myself it disables me. Masking and trying to be NT is particularly bad for me.

This place doesn't make me feel miserable as such, just triggered. There seems to be so many kafkatraps.

"All autistics lack empathy"
"No we don't"
"Saying that we don't lack empathy is lacking empathy"

*Screams the place down in despair*

WP has a number of places to post, to play, to relate, to befriend, but the Haven is where we can come when we are upset, bewildered, lonely.
If you wander in here without reading the explanation posts, it WILL be a bewildering, depressing place.
We are looking for company and sympathy and reassurance when we post in this ‘room’;
If you follow the conversations from their initial posts, you will see member after member looking for emotional help, guidance, consolation, and post after post from other members caring and consoling and offering suggestions to help the unhappy one.
24 hours a day.
It is actually one of the most important and VERY needed places on WP.