No socialising, boring life

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I turned 23 years old this month. No difference than 5 years ago. I cant socialise and i have still 0 friends. Its not because of coronavirus or anything. This is how i live since childhood (involuntarily).

No accomplishment, zero experience. I mean, feeling like that sucks. If im 23 years old i should have had a lot of experience (social, relationship, career...) but my life is a garbage. Please help me what exactly would you do if you were in my situation? Sorry for my bad english. I cant solve what im dealing with.

Do you have any interesting hobbies?

Not really

What do you like to do when you're not in school?

What are studying now, if you are in school?

I am under the impression that the OP is a student in a country near the Mideast.

What would I do in your shoes? Hard to say since I don't really know those shoes of yours... but you know, 23 and no proper career is the norm, at least around here if you go to university. University students tend to do whatever low wage jobs they can get while they study with no real career being built up. There are exceptions of course, but if one goes to university at around age 18-20, they're likely to just have some part time jobs or, if they've graduated at your age, are only starting their actual careers. So at the very least, I don't think you're far behind your age group when it comes to your career path.

...Actually, re-reading your message, I'm in a bit similar situation, though I'm already 26. I have a job yes, but it's low paid and part time with pretty much no advancing possibilities, so talking about having a career would be overdoing it. Friends... well, I know people who I sometimes spend some time with, but we aren't close. Relationship? Nah, and I have more fingers than I've had dates. So at the very least, you're not the only one in that situation. All I can do is to keep trying, so I guess I'll recommend the same to you? Take this whole corona virus -period as a chance to create a battle plan.

Who says you should? NT's can be late developers, you are autistic, so you should not be under any pressure, least of all from yourself. That doesn't mean you have to carry on as you are, just don't feel as though you're miles behind in some imaginary race. If you're ready to make changes, you don't have to dive in at the deep end.

Hello Highly Autistic

Your description of yourself isn't uncommon with young people let alone people with ASD.
So don't be too hard on yourself.

Don't compare yourself to others.
Life isn't a competition. Everyone is different in terms of attributes / disabilities / handicaps and circumstances.
How can one judge another? To me the idea is ludicrous.

I believe that life is an experience that each of us have been gifted with.
And each experience is completely individual.

You can do all sorts of things with your life.
And you can choose how you interact with the world around you, choose your values.
You don't have to choose the values that are dictated to you by others.

My advice is be who you want to be, try not to hurt others in the process and try and be happy,
or at the very least content.

As you presently have no employment experience or hobbies, you have a lots to work out and to choose from.
Your choices are limited by your imagination and in some cases your budget (for example, if you want to fly to Mars on your own space ship, that may be less achievable at the mo than getting a bicycle).

As for friends, well, hang around on this forum long enough and you may find that you make friends quick.
You just need to work out how to translate the same type of behaviour in the physical world.

If you want help to do this, simply ask, as there are loads of well meaning people on this board who would be more than happy to help you work out what to do.

Otherwise, pleased to meet you.

Dear madbutnotmad,
That was one of the best posts I have ever read on WP!
It applies to all of us!
Thank you!

Om Nom hugs