I hate these lingering feelings

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Hi:
I am writing this because there are people, situations and circumstances that still bother me long after they happen.

To name a few examples

I left this one congregation that was not the right fit for me about three years ago now. That said, minister and several other people there very cold and bullied me. Though I have confronted them, they are telling people who attend their services not to be friends with me.

Second, I used to go over to a former friend's house for Thanksgiving dinner, which turned out to be more of a pity dinner because I did not have anywhere else to go. Otherwise, her family members didn't really care about me, they just put on a good front. Meanwhile, her mom and youngest sister kept cutting me down and insisting on telling me how to live my life because I have a disability. I should do everything like her daughter.

I really wish I could let these situations go and I hate thinking about them all the time

I'm sorry you had to go through those things. I often tell myself that it's not worth my energy to ruminate on after having gone through similar events or circumstances, but I understand what you mean when you are talking about the lingering feelings...I am often reminded of emotional damage that has been done to me in the past and it seems to dictate my personality for awhile once I'm reminded, so I know it can be very frustrating. I'm sorry, I hope you're having a better afternoon

Blue_Blake

I most likely will not be attending that congregation anytime soon as I have heard the preacher will tell people not to go back on the account of silly reasons that don't line up with his views. I am pretty sure they would "Nicely" ask me to leave. I have also seen quite a few people from that congregation unfriend me on Facebook. They act like I am this dangerous person because I do things they don't happen to agree with.

In the case of that family, it breaks my heart that they didn't like me or really respect me as a person, because my family has not treated me very well. So, I have been looking for other people to invest my time in and they were not a good match either. Yet, it still hurts.

That sounds like it does hurt, and you have every right to feel that way. I'm here to talk if you want, along with everyone else here! Lingering feelings and ruminations are so tough to deal with.

Humans can be very callous when involved with groups. It is awful to become ostracized because a few influential people decide you are not a good fit for the group. I am sorry this happened to you and I hope you can find a way to leave that in the past and I wish you the best of luck finding new and accepting friendships in the future.

They didn't kick me out, rather they ran me out of there by dropping several hints. It was only when I attempted to confront them for what they did that I am the bad guy.