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So, last Monday, my partner (who's currently in her home country with her sick mom) went for a regular gyno checkup and got a urine test done. Turns out her glu level was 250 mg/dl. The doc thinks it might be diabetes (but didn't want to freak her out), and honestly, it's like 99% Type 2 diabetes. They told her to lay off sweets for now, and her next appointment is on 1st August for more tests.

I was like, "Why wait so long? This sounds serious, just see an endocrinologist right away" But she's all like, "Nah, don't worry too much."

Then today, she sends me a pic of her munching on ice cream, and I ask, "Is it sugar-free?" She just laughs and says, "I dunno." That got me hit the roof.

I mean, she's 42, not a kid anymore. I dig her young spirit, which is cool, but there's a difference between being young at heart and just plain immature, and I can't stand the latter, this act was immature.

I was like, "Can't you have some self-control till you get diagnosed and start treatment? That ice cream is most likely 25% sugar!" Treating Type 2 diabetes ain't that hard—just a bit of self-discipline and some pills after meals, or it gets risky. A few days ago, she was complaining about "burning and numbness in her feet at night," which is like classic long-term high blood sugar stuff. I told her it's probably diabetes and she should get it checked out asap.

At least she should listen to her doctor.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 21 Jul 2023, 5:10 am, edited 2 times in total.

Yeah, it's frustrating when people we love won't do seemingly easy stuff to help themselves.

Are you sure it's just a lack of seriousness on her part? Are you sure it would be that easy for her to stop?

I've struggled with food all my life. I binge eat sugary stuff until I feel sick and then I'll try to find a food I can eat to counteract the nausea so I can eat more sugary food. It's not logical at all and I've got close to diabetes at times - the fear of harming myself doesn't factor in when I'm in a binge frenzy. Some psychoanalysts might say harming myself is the whole point.

I know it's not a laughing matter but I might laugh it off if my partner or someone picks me up on it.

What I'm saying is that eating this way, to the point that you're harming yourself, isn't resolved by self-control. It can be a symptom of something else that's wrong.

I hear you bro

Based on stuff you've said in the past, she seems to really like sugar. She might be upset by the prospect of giving it up/greatly reducing her intake and wants to indulge until a doctor tells her otherwise. I have an uncle with diabetes, and it's been an ongoing issue. I swear he ate more sugar after he was diagnosed than he did before. His issue was related to growing up very poor and not always having enough to eat as a kid.

Could something else be going on to explain her behavior? If so, nagging her about her intake might just make her want it more. I'm not saying that you're doing that, but you might want to reconsider if you are because it'll have the opposite effect you want.

I can see how you'd be stressed and upset about it, though.

Since it’s a stressful time with her Mom she could be seeking comfort food.

August 1st isn't very long to wait for more tests.. a week and a half.

Maybe her thought process is that until she has doctors orders not to do something, she's going to enjoy her last bit of freedom to eat ice cream ? Kinda silly, but, could be what she's thinking.

It's frustrating when people don't take care of their diabetes. A couple of my cousin's kids are type 1. One takes care of their diabetes very well, the other has ignored it almost completely and has been hospitalized dozens of times. She's only ~20yo and has nerve problems in her feet. I scolded her and told her it's not a f*****g joke, if you don't take care of your diabetes you're going to lose your feet. In the grand scheme of things, I don't think she'll ever take care of her diet and insulin properly as she almost never has and I think she'll have serious complications before she's 30 and I would not be surprised if she dies from them before she's 40.

People that can balance their blood sugar and avoid health problems with dietary changes and maybe a pill or two (like my brother, type 2) should simply do those things as advised and live healthy lives for it. Mind boggling how many people ignore diabetes and compound their own problems.

Sugar is addictive; some people will drink themselves to death, others let another addictive substance ruin their health despite knowing the consequences.

Social Media is addictive. WP can be addictive. Even thinking negative thoughts can be addictive. Damned near everything can be addictive and detrimental to our lives, health, and general well being.. never mind productivity and a plethora of achievements.

Just saying.. it's not just substances & food we harm ourselves with. They're just the most commonly understood things.