Worried about being alone long term

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chris1989
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08 Aug 2023, 9:22 am

I have worried sometimes I'll end up being alone long term. The thing I find myself picky when it comes to meeting someone I want to socialise and also with the places to socialise in as I said before I won't go on my own to a pub, bar or whatever worrying I'll just end up on my own anyway and worried that people will think I'm some weirdo staring at people.

I also hate that stereotype of someone who much older (50s onward) being depicted as weird or unattractive and still alone without a partner or any kids. I work with someone who is in his late 50s and lives on his own with his cats. I seem to think he doesn't care about what other people think of him and his life so don't understand why as someone much younger than him it's concerning to me.



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08 Aug 2023, 9:43 am

It's a reality that you might end up alone. If you do, try to be ok with it.


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08 Aug 2023, 9:51 am

I'm 52 and live on my own with no partner. I prefer being on my own tbh so I wouldn't worry about it Chris.


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08 Aug 2023, 9:55 am

There's a lot of very elderly people in care homes where their life partner has died and they've ended up alone for years and years either way so just try to enjoy yourself in this short existence. These elderly people usually have friends they've been with forever so it's not completely awful though.


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20 Aug 2023, 12:51 pm

Probably best to learn to enjoy your own company just in case you end up living a life of solitude.

Bonus: Enjoying your own company solo will project a certain level of contentment/happiness, which may eventually attract a partner into your life. Much better odds than if you sit around solo looking miserable that you're by yourself. Really, truly.. think about it. Find happiness solo and someone else may find you attractive.. sit around and sulk about it and you'll repel any potential dates or partners.


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