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Yugoslav1945
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13 Apr 2024, 1:18 am

High school graduation is coming in May and I don't have any friends to celebrate the graduation with. The only thing left is my family who would love to celebrate this moment. Started fourth grade and had high hopes of enjoying a nice graduation when I got someone but then as conflict erupted and as persecution ensued, I feel like I am going to graduate without sharing it to anyone outside of my family. Only my family will be happy and no one else.

Maybe I should be happy that I have a family that is happy that I am graduating. I don't know how did I fail miserably in social life but managed to achieve this academic breakthrough in these 19 f*****g YEARS!!


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20 Apr 2024, 12:41 am

When I graduated from uni, I wished I had family there. I had two friends instead. While I was grateful for their presence, I felt sad that none of my family showed up.

Kind of opposite from what you're experiencing, OP.



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20 Apr 2024, 1:13 am

happy for your graduation.


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20 Apr 2024, 8:13 am

Congrats! I never went to proms and such since i did not have any friends either.

I know it feels lonely when it is in your age, but most people don't care about their classmates either way when they start working and have a family.



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21 Apr 2024, 10:19 am

AprilR wrote:
Congrats! I never went to proms and such since i did not have any friends either.

I know it feels lonely when it is in your age, but most people don't care about their classmates either way when they start working and have a family.


It's not that I won't care for the classmates in later age, it's just that I haven't been able to have a good social life throughout my teenage years. I feel like when the good comes to me, it will somehow end up going bad without reason despite my will to preserve it.


For I have nothing outside of my family.
Dishonored by many.
I have yearned to be lively,
But such was denied by the uncanny.

Who had I been angering,
and that said doesn't provide reasoning?
I had been pondering.
The tragedy that I have been mourning.

The Reason is dead.
We have killed it with our own treason.
All I see is pure dread.
We seem to do this for our own reason.


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21 Apr 2024, 10:57 am

I was very lonely during my high school years, so I can relate to what you’re going through. It’s really hard. As I got older, it gradually became less difficult. I’ve been too shy to make many friends, but being alone doesn’t bother me like it used to. Young people often have different needs. I hope having the support of family and people online helps you.



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21 Apr 2024, 11:12 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
I was very lonely during my high school years, so I can relate to what you’re going through. It’s really hard. As I got older, it gradually became less difficult. I’ve been too shy to make many friends, but being alone doesn’t bother me like it used to. Young people often have different needs. I hope having the support of family and people online helps you.


Maybe. I just don't feel like people outside of my family would trust me as much as I would trust them. I feel too much estranged, especially when I realize that a close friend can dump me for the wrong reasons. If I don't get to bloom again, then what's next?!


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